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- Newsgroups: alt.polyamory
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- From: gds@york.cs.ucla.edu (Greg Skinner)
- Subject: Re: "Cheating"
- Message-ID: <1993Jan1.174327.3529@cs.ucla.edu>
- Originator: gds@york.cs.ucla.edu
- Sender: usenet@cs.ucla.edu (Mr Usenet)
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- Reply-To: gds@cs.ucla.edu (Greg Skinner)
- Organization: in your face!
- References: <725616049.AA00762@tdkt.kksys.com> <1992Dec30.170528.16344@toontown.uucp>
- Date: Fri, 1 Jan 93 17:43:27 GMT
- Lines: 22
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- In article <1992Dec30.170528.16344@toontown.uucp> ucda@toontown.uucp (Chris Andersen) writes:
- >Just because one has a tool (a penis, artificial or otherwise) that
- >allows one to perform a certain act (penetration) that someone without
- >that tool cannot perform does not inherently make the person with that
- >tool superior in that act. It is quite possible that the person who
- >is penetrated can be the one who is the active force behind the act.
-
- >When I've watched Donahue, Geraldo, etc. do shows on polyamory topics
- >I think the single biggest obstacle that prevents a large portion of
- >the audience from even understanding the topic is that they are
- >constantly trying to fit it into the standard power relationship which
- >is defined by society: man and woman as partners, man on top giving,
- >woman on bottom receiving.
-
- I was thinking of this while reading the first (included) paragraph.
- When I'm on the bottom and my partner is on top, I do not feel
- superior. I've never considered myself to be a person who explicitly
- practices dominance/submissive acts, yet in a way I feel like I'm
- being dominated when my partner is on top, and I sometimes get a
- thrill out of it.
-
- --gregbo
-