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- From: solovay@netcom.com (Andrew Solovay)
- Subject: Re: Why not cure homosexuality?
- Message-ID: <1992Dec31.203034.13685@netcom.com>
- Organization: Free Faerie Front
- References: <92364.223718MEH124@psuvm.psu.edu>
- Date: Thu, 31 Dec 1992 20:30:34 GMT
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- I shouldn't post on this thread. You'd think I'd have learned my
- lesson by now. (As if...)
-
- In article <92364.223718MEH124@psuvm.psu.edu> MEH124@psuvm.psu.edu writes:
- >What if by some outside chance these conservative Christians are correct in
- >their beliefs? Why be so hard on those that want a cure for what they feel
- >is wrong? I have seen a number of books that are supposed to help people
- >overcome, or at least live with, their homosexual feelings. Many of the books
- >even claim a 65% success rate (e.g., "Pursuing Sexual Wholeness," by Andrew
- >Comiskey--a recovered homosexual himself).
-
- Well, I'll assume you meant this post innocently. Let me offer
- some advice: Don't talk about "curing", that implies a sickness.
- Some of us don't like the connotations. Same with phrases like
- "recovered homosexual".
-
- Now, suppose you meant "changing". Can't be done now, but who
- knows about the future? By way of analogy, there is nothing wrong
- with being a man; in fact, I rather like it. But some people who
- are born male are unhappy with it, and would like to change. We
- don't talk about "curing" their maleness, since being male isn't
- a disease (whatever some people might think...); but we are
- learning how to *change* the situation. Gender reassignment is
- still imperfect at best, but we're learning more all the time.
-
- In a hundred years, it may be the same for homosexuality (and, of
- course, heterosexuality). People who feel uncomfortable about
- their orientation might be able to change it at will. For that
- matter, they may be able to change their left-or-right
- handedness, or eye color, or height. Most people probably
- wouldn't make this change, but for some (e.g., people with
- religious problems, as you note) this might be the best route.
- But this option is still far in the future. For the time being,
- if you're born green-eyed, you're stuck with it.
-
- Options? Well, if you're somewhat attracted to both sexes, you
- have less of a problem. You can probably pursue the "heterosexual
- lifestyle" middling well, even if you're more attracted to your
- own sex. (I expect most of the "successes" you talk about are of
- that nature.) If you're mainly or entirely attracted to your own
- sex, there's still one option, namely celibacy. Granted, celibacy
- is a much more unnatural "lifestyle" than being homosexually
- active, but if it's good enough for the Pope, it may be right for
- you. Again, this may be a good solution if your religion is
- incompatible with being a "practicing homosexual". (A better
- option is, of course, to change religions.)
-
- There's one thing that you *can't* change-- you'll always be
- attracted to people of your own sex. The sooner you accept this,
- the better. No "cure" has changed that, no matter what Oprah's
- guestsmight tell you.
- --
- Andrew Solovay
-
- "I is not now, nor has I ever been, a Human Bein'!"
- ---Pogo Possum
-