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- From: anderson@macc.wisc.edu (Jess Anderson)
- Subject: Not Getting It (Yet, Again, Ever?) (was Re: Liberty)
- Message-ID: <1992Dec26.145344.20994@macc.wisc.edu>
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- Organization: Madison Academic Computing Center, UW-Madison
- References: <18218@autodesk.COM> <1992Dec25.173713.24226@reed.edu> <1992Dec26.115250.21604@panix.com>
- Date: Sat, 26 Dec 92 14:53:44 GMT
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- In article <1992Dec26.115250.21604@panix.com> mara@panix.com
- (Mara Chibnik) writes:
-
- >(Note the followups line, please. If you really need to answer,
- >send me email, but I should warn you that I'm about at the limit on
- >this one.)
-
- Please forgive me, Mara, for not letting it die just yet.
- I want to try to shift away from the points you have made
- (with more forebearance than I could have mustered), in
- simply affirming them as we head off in a different sense.
-
- What I'm after just now is to try to fathom why so many
- people (if there women in this group, I'd be a little
- surprised, so I think it's almost altogether men) go so far
- to *insist* on preserving their notions of "correct" grammar
- in English, despite the (to me, completely) obvious social
- and personal defects of doing so.
-
- Some of the posters, for example this last one, trouble
- themselves enough to publish a completely irrelevant point,
- almost as though they felt compelled to get away from having
- to recognize and legitimize any aspect of the complaints you
- articulate about exclusion by gender.
-
- To put my thrust in simple terms: how *can* so many men be
- such complete blockheads, so stiff-necked or tight-assed or
- whatever the right phrase is, as to avoid *any* concession
- or recognition of the *effects* of this exclusionary grammar
- on the greater part of the population? How can they not
- *want* to concede this, how can they not *want* to do
- *whatever* it may require to help offset the *clearly*
- undesirable effects of the "correct" use of pronouns?
-
- I don't think a person has to be all that clever to see ...
-
- >I _did_ see a couple of women who complained that the
- >so-called "inclusive masculine" didn't make _them_ feel included,
-
- ... this *obvious* fact, yet as you note ...
-
- >men answering saw no
- >need whatsoever to accommodate to the feelings of those women who
- >say that the "inclusive masculine" excludes them.
-
- Something is *really* wrong in the psyches of men who don't
- get it, who don't get it instantly and easily, who don't
- recognize *at once* the simple truth and move right away
- to ...
-
- >acknowledgment of the significance of women's reactions on
- >this issue-- as a matter of course and as a matter more important
- >than whether using "they" when the antecedent is "everyone" or
- >"someone" grates on any particular ears, and second the
- >acknowledgment that masculine pronouns do not include women.
-
- It seems to me that the common failure to do so is so
- startlingly, so overwhelming stupid as to signal a kind
- of defect in the whole process of male thinking. Something
- *is* wrong with these men, and ...
-
- >I don't think that this is a soc.motss discussion any more.
-
- ... gay men are in my opinion every bit as apt to offend in
- this regard as the most clueless of straight men.
-
- As part of the wrapup of 1992, I think I've reached my
- personal limit on the dunderheadedness of little boys. I'm
- tired of the types who come on here and say "oh, we're
- trying, we just don't know what bothers women so much, help
- us learn." Bull*shit*, honey, if they call that trying.
- They're not trying one damn bit. With even a scintilla of
- exertion, not amounting even to one complete thought, they
- should be able to reach at least a little understanding of
- the problem. That they do not, that they continue to cling
- to their cherished little notions, just annoys the hell out
- of me, and far from coddling them in this, I think it's
- about time the heat got turned up to incandescent, right
- here in River City.
-
- <> It is not true that life is one damn thing after another --
- <> it's one damn thing over and over.
- <> -- Edna St. Vincent Millay
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