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- From: boserj@netcom.com (Jeffrey Boser)
- Subject: Purity
- Message-ID: <1993Jan1.014238.17022@netcom.com>
- Organization: Netcom Online Communications Services (408-241-9760 login: guest)
- Date: Fri, 1 Jan 1993 01:42:38 GMT
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- A few days ago, driving roy to the campus (Hi roy! I want another hug!)
- we got into a conversation about bi and how it is resented by 'purists'.
- Lesbians who think that a woman who sleeps with a man is sleeping with
- the 'enemy'. At the time I got tiffed at being considered an enemy,
- but I have been thinking about this alot the past few days.
-
- At every attempt to label sexuality, there are exceptions. There are
- lesbians who are married to men, there are bi's that are sexual exclusively
- with one gender, there are even people who get off without even touching
- themselves or another, as well as people who never get off.
-
- What I am wondering is why there is such a strong demand for purity in
- our lebels? And if we will ever be accepting of exceptions when they
- initially come up, or do we have to continue to bash out some elbow room
- if we want be a little deviant?
-
- Roy was telling me that if hets could use their sexuality to oppress others,
- then turn about was fair play, and maybe even necessary. And I agreed, but
- I was wondering the whole time when the fighting would end, when sexuality
- wasnt flung around like a brick laden glove at someone's face.
-
- We keep having to redefine our labels.. the words dont mean the same
- things they used to. But does anybody but me wish we would outgrow the
- damn things?
-
- ....jeff
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