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- From: adculha@afterlife.ncsc.mil (Andrew Culhane)
- Newsgroups: misc.kids
- Subject: Re: "my wife and I are pregnant", revisited
- Message-ID: <1992Dec22.151651.13614@afterlife.ncsc.mil>
- Date: 22 Dec 92 15:16:51 GMT
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- A comment for what it's worth ...
-
- Disclaimer: I DIDN'T say "we're pregnant" when my wife was pregnant. I'm too
- picky about the English language, I guess.
-
- Claimer: Most of my friends, acquaintances, health care professionals, and
- downright strangers were much more determined to downplay my role in the
- pregnancy than my wife and I were. I went with my wife to all of here
- pregnancy checkups, and I was always the only man in the office (except
- for one of the obstetricians). The (female) receptionists, nurses, and
- doctors ignored me or talked around me to my wife. The sole male partner
- of the practice was the only one who appeared to believe that the father-
- to-be might have reason to be included in the discussions. At the hospital
- after my son was born, the nurses trained my wife in detail on changing
- diapers etc. and ignored me.
-
- What does this have to do with anything? Maybe nothing, maybe I'm just
- whining. But just as surely as I'll never be pregnant, none of the women
- who find "we're pregnant" irritating will ever be treated in quite this
- manner. Yes, I know, I'm comparing apples with watermelons.
-
- Also for what it's worth, my wife found this "ignore the father" behavior
- just as bizarre as I did.
-
- --- father of John L. Culhane III, who is not named after me, so let's
- see how long it takes before somebody tells me I can't call him that.
-