In article <2285@newsserver.cs.uwindsor.ca>, bouche2@server.uwindsor.ca (BOUCHER DAVID ) writes:
> In article <1992Dec19.063547.6275@desire.wright.edu> sbishop@desire.wright.edu writes:
>
>>[...] One thing I do see; a vast majority of the kids
>>who end up in juvenile care facilities are from divorced homes. Usually
>>the girls run away because: (a) daddy's new girl friend ran them off
>>(I work with two sisters that this happened to) or (b) they HATE their
>>new step-dad.
>
> (a) and (b) are the same. They ran away because they didn't get along with
> custodial parent's new SO. The way it is phrased here seems to imply that
> in both cases the problem is essentially the fault of men. Either (a) daddy
> dumped mommy for a scheming little homewrecker who doesn't want the kids
> around or (b) step-dad is such a jerk (and probably an abuser too) so the kids
> can't stand to be around him.
I agree with you, it was my point exactly. I didn't mean to imply it was
the fault of the men, except when they are the one doing the neglecting.
The problems I see are nearly always caused by the parents choosing or
supporting a new mate over the children they already have. Whether it is
Mommy or Daddy, it all comes out the same, the child is the sufferer.
I do know there are kids who try to break up their parent's new marriage,
but too often, what I see are discarded kids who just have no place to
go and no one to turn to.
How on earth are these kids going to go on and be good parents and members
of society themselves?
>
> I don't think that's really what you meant to imply... maybe when you were
> writing this you were thinking about your foster son's father, who does sound
> like a jerk from the way you describe him. However, I don't think he is typicalof the men who get caught up in the Child Protection/Support/Custody Meat
> Grinder. Like the rain, it comes down on the good and the evil with equal
> force.
>
You need to put more hard returns in your posts. My local net node truncated
