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- From: mlrooney@undergrad.math.waterloo.edu (Monica Rooney)
- Subject: Re: Adoption is an answer
- Message-ID: <By6GBG.CIK@undergrad.math.waterloo.edu>
- Sender: Monica Rooney
- Organization: University of Waterloo
- References: <1992Nov17.031420.13061@rs6000.cmp.ilstu.edu> <1992Nov17.193236.20722@wixer.cactus.org>
- Date: Mon, 23 Nov 1992 16:26:03 GMT
- Lines: 46
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- >Obviously you are not adopted. Nore do you realize that adopted individuald
- >suffer many emotional and developmental problems. Your 'statistically well
- >adjusted adoptee" is quite a myth. There are a number of studies showing
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- I was adopted at the age of 2 weeks from a 17 year old girl to the home of
- an older middle class couple who had adopted a child 4 years earlier.
- I grew up with a loving family and I'm sorry to say that I am extremely well
- adjusted. I attend the University of Waterloo for Math and have a 90+ average.
-
- >that bonding stress in early infancy and emotional problems that arise later
- >from a lack of biological referance cause the adoptee to have a 5 times
- >greater learning disability rate.
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- I have no emotional problems and I'm in a loving relationship. Having a family
- (I considered my unknown birth family an extention of my own) that I knew
- nothing about taught me to be inquisitive -inquistive enough to find out more.
-
- I contacted my birth mother 2 and a half years ago and we have been friends
- ever since. I have a whole other family (but my adoptive family comes first).
-
- >If a couple does not wish to have a child there are much easier ways to aviod
- >doing so. I am not going to adress the abortion isue here because it has
- >nothing to do with parents trying to get rid of their responsabilitys...
-
- Giving a child up for adoption to give that child a better home is not avoiding
- responsibilities, it's facing them. How responsible would it be to keep a
- child you couldn't possibly support?
-
- >You seem to have no knowledge about how adoption effects society I recomend
- >the book 'Being Adopted' And other reading on the efects of giving children
- >up that are documented.
-
- The author obviously didn't interview me. Adoption gives birth parents a way
- to provide a better life for their children and gives adoptive parents the
- chance to raise a child they couldn't have on their own.
- If you think I'm the exception, I know many other well adjusted adoptees.
- Maybe you don't see us because we don't stand out.
-
- >Good luck in talk.abortion
-
- >Timothy Sheridan
-
- I suggest you do some futher research and don't believe everything you read.
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- Monica Rooney
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