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- Subject: Self aware SWM ISO self aware SWF
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- Date: Fri, 22 Jan 93 01:07:59 GMT
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- What am I looking for?
- A self-aware lady (between 25-35 years) with whom to
- share views on life and love, to develop a lasting friendship,
- and, while not essential, to develop a long-term relationship.
-
- About myself...
- Appearance
- 27 years old (in April)
- 6' 1", 170 lbs
- light brown hair (no mustache or beard)
- green/brown eyes
- trim and very fit
-
- History
- no drugs, past, present, or future
- no alcohol problems, past, present, or future
- no diseases, past, present, or future
- well-traveled (Europe) and well educated
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- Residence
- East coast, near New York City area
-
- Personality
- I have developed a balanced and realistic view on life. I
- am an introspective person, measuring myself and my
- performance in life from what I feel within myself, and not as
- much by what the world tells me. Balancing against my
- introverted tendency is my sociable side, allowing me to be
- comfortable when chatting with strangers and forming new
- friendships. I use the inputs of others to point out
- shortcomings in my style of living, but have learned not to
- take all things to heart. Expression of feelings and emotions
- of all types is critical for me, as it is for anyone. Balancing
- against my emotional side is a thinking side, looking at the
- facts and attempting to reach a logical solution to a given
- problem. My intuitive side is perhaps my most well developed
- skill. It has helped me greatly in my engineering/research
- profession. And as well, I like to dream, and then work hard to
- make the dream reality through blood, sweat, and tears. I
- often dream lofty dreams, but temper them against a realistic
- perspective. I am working hard at making honest, direct and
- clear self-expression my way, while stating these things in a
- non-accusatory, non-manipulative way. Equally as important I
- am learning to listen and allow people to be this way with me.
- I am learning to give to people when appropriate for both them
- and myself, and as well when to ask for things from others.
-
- Beliefs on relationships
- I believe that a friendship is based upon the mutual
- acceptance of another person, regardless of his or her beliefs
- in life. I believe friends should be willing to listen unselfishly
- to other friends in need, and equally as well have friends to
- whom they can speak when they are needy. Friends can share
- similar or entirely different interests, as long as people are
- accepted for who they are.
- I believe that well-defined and well-developed *self*
- awareness from both partners in a long-term romantic
- relationship is the key to the ultimate success of the
- relationship. With self awareness from both partners, honesty
- with feelings (good and "bad" alike) and needs flows easily
- from each person, and the honest expression of feelings and
- needs is as easily heard by each person. I believe each person
- in a successful LTR must accept, or has accepted, his or her
- partner as he or she is, with both beauty and flaws equally
- intact.
- I do not believe that there is a *perfect* woman out there
- for me, but rather a woman who has accepted herself and can
- accept me as I am. Neither of us will manipulate or guilt trip
- the other, nor will we carry "Pygmalion project" plans on our
- minds. I steer absolutely clear from those seeking fatherly
- figures, rescuees from life's hardships, "powerless" victims,
- blamers, drug addicts, and rebounds.
-
- Any and all respondees will be answered. Please tell me about
- yourself, anything you feel is important, and a little bit on how
- you view life, love, relationships, and most importantly,
- yourself.
-
- Ask anything you like as well.
-
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