NetNews Usenet Archive 1992 #31/NN_1992_31.iso/spool/misc/kids/31038

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From: [e-mail] (Jill Boyce)
Subject: fathers-to-be ignored by doctors, was Re: "my wife and I are pregnant", revisite
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We had an annoying experience with doctor's completely ignoring my
husband during my pregnancy.  My obstetrician was fine with including my
husband.  But, another doctor referred to for an amniocentesis (after two
high AFP test results) was just terrible.  (By the way -- amnio came out
fine, we have a healthy 8 month old boy, although born 5 weeks premature.)

Anyway, we were discussing with this doctor whether or not to have the
amniocentesis, and what the possible results of the test would be.  The
doctor (a woman) completely and totally ignored my husband.  She spoke
only to me.  While it is true that I was the one who had the ultimate
decision about whether or not to have the test, and what to do based on
the results of the test, my husband was certainly going to be involved
in the decision making.  The simple fact that he was present should have
been a clue that this was the case.

So, what can one do about this?  I can of course not go back to this
doctor, but then again, I won't have the need to again, I hope.  At
the time I had too much on my mind to say anything to the doctor.


Jill Boyce (mother to Jimmy, 8 months)
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