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- Newsgroups: alt.transgendered
- Path: sparky!uunet!mcsun!fuug!anon
- From: an4361@anon.penet.fi (Claudia)
- Subject: I'm new here
- Message-ID: <1993Jan2.150621.4492@fuug.fi>
- Sender: anon@fuug.fi (The Anon Administrator)
- Organization: Anonymous contact service
- X-Anonymously-To: alt.transgendered
- Date: Sat, 2 Jan 1993 14:54:50 GMT
- Lines: 127
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- Hello everyone
-
- I'm somewhat nervous and excited, for it is the first time I talk about
- my affinity to crossdressing.
-
- Still I don't know exactly what's on with me, but I hope, the surprisingly
- open and fair discussion in this newsgroup will help me to do so.
-
- Like so many of you, I'd like to give a short description of my CD history.
- If you feel bored, please skip the rest.
-
- At the age of 7 I first recognized that certain pieces of women's clothing
- had an enormous attraction to me, namely one-piece bathing suits, high heels
- and back-free clothes. Occasionally, I tried out my mother's and my sisters'
- clothes, but always was terribly afraid of beeing seen by others.
-
- Later on, my objects of attraction changed somewhat, always influenced by
- fashion. Especially ladies' overalls and jumpsuits became interesting to me.
- I then asked my grandmother to sew one for me, which still might have been
- interpreted as a men's garment.
-
- With all my clothing ideas, I then tried to find a compromise with that what
- was culturally accepted, since I felt - and feel - male.
-
- With 14 or so I began sewing, and, becoming more and more experienced,
- I could realize many of my ideas. But although I always tried to stick to
- male fashion remotely, I seldom dared to wear my 'creations' in public.
-
- More and more, I recognized, that my male identity prevented me from wearing
- the clothes I liked. Sometimes, I was dreaming of changing gender, maybe
- for some days or weeks, or sometimes even for the rest of my life, and when
- I heard about the possibility of changing sex by operative invasion, that gave
- a lot of inspiration to my thoughts. But mainly, I kept feeling male and I never
- really considered to actually undergo such an operation.
-
- Until now, I'm 26, I am sewing many of my ideas, with constantly increasing
- courage in designing, and still I seldom dare to wear something in public.
-
- I think that culture had a heavy impact on me, and I'm afraid I might be
- considered gay. Women alone are sexually attractive to me, although I feel
- some admiration for (not too) muscular, handsome men.
-
- Like so many of you, I would like to change my gender for some time in an
- SF-manner. I think, this would be the solution for many whishing-to-be ladies.
-
- - EOB (end of "biography") :)
-
- If you're still interested, I'd like to discuss some of my opinions about the
- whole topic.
-
- By the way, do we have any genetic females out here, or are only genetic males
- whishing to change gender?
-
- If this was so, it would support a theory of mine. As I already complained, my
- male body keeps me - or should I rather say, culture keeps my body ? - from
- wearing anything I like in public.
-
- But why don't we hear much about women whishing to be male? In fact, they exist.
- I happen to know a girl who in her early youth always was interested in boys as
- mates, boys' clothes and boys' habits. And she has her difficulties with it,
- too. She now can wear boy's clothes, she can act as she likes, but she still
- suffers of it. But lucky, she she is able to talk about her problems, unlike
- most men with similar problems.
-
- At least when clothes are concerned, women have no problems being - in the sense
- of "Kleider machen Leute" - whatever they like. Men's fashion nowadays is a proper
- subset of women's fashion. Of course, in other parts of public life, women don't
- have that freedom, they have serious difficulties getting equal (and equally paid)
- jobs as men, they are much more restricted in where they go and what they do,
- because that little anatomic difference also consists of less phyisical power.
- But this is a topic that rather belongs to alt.feminism.
-
- I believe that a big part of the folk out here in this newsgroup would be helped
- by a 'male emancipation' in fashion.
-
- Now, I hear them yelling out: But male bodies are not by far that attractive as
- female bodies are!!! Look at those hairy legs and chest, those fat bellies, that
- vanishing hair etc.
-
- On the first glimpse, male bodies don't seem to be made for these soft fabrics,
- these nice colors and gadgets that are familiar in women's fashion. As many of
- you are complaining, men are too tall, have hairy bodies, vanishing head hair,
- things that prevent them from looking female, soft, nice and so on.
-
- But look what women are doing to fit the female scheme: bulimia, anorexia
- and other psychic phenomena occur mainly on females; all these drugs and accessories
- to remove body hair, silicon implants at various places, make-up to smoothen the
- skin, face liftings and so on.
-
- I think that males making similar efforts could be made to fit in a scheme they
- don't fit in - like in the female case, where a great many actually doesn't fit
- in this soft, nice, 'streamlined' scheme.
-
- In former times, men were 'allowed' to make up their bodies. Costume history
- shows us that kings and nobles wore things at least as colorful as ladies and
- in old ages there was a strong similarity between the way men and women dressed.
-
- But more and more, the fashion was specializing not only in the way it adapted
- to the different anatomies. The different roles of the genders caused men to
- spend less time and energy on making themselves up and underlining the features
- attractive for the other sex.
-
- This way it came, I believe, that male fashion in these times is as unattractive
- and boring as it never was before and leaves as little place for expression as
- ever. And more, I believe that this is the reason for many men - also including
- some folks out here - to be unhappy with their sex.
-
- My conclusion is that, as women are fighting for emancipation in work and everyday's
- life, men should "fight" for emancipation too in segments of life that seemed to
- belong to women up to now.
-
- I hope I didn't bore you with my opinions and my german-ish english. I would like
- to hear if somebody feels the way I do. If anybody out here liked some help
- with clothing and sewing, I might be able to give support - feel free to contact me.
-
- Bye & my best wishes for the new year
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