Normally on this group, I am just looking for a flame-war, or shouting
my opinions (that noone listens to, anyway) out at everybody, or just
getting in a good E-mail war. It's a great stress reliever, and I find
it very fun. But every once in a while I see something that really does
touch my heart and I feel I should be serious (I'm rarely serious about a
post).
It almost hurt my feeling to read your post about your wife. I have had
relationships like this in the past. Everything's great, good fun, great
sex...and then suddenly, there's no respect or affection coming my way
anymore.
The first thing I would suggest is to try TALKING to your wife. Tell her
how you feel. Tell her you feel hurt. Tell her you WANT affection. Tell
her you NEED affection. Try to discuss it all with her. Ask her WHY
she's so hard to give you affection.
If all this doesn't change anything, then it hurts me to say that I just
don't think the magic is there anymore, and maybe it IS time for you to
leave. If worst came to worst...you could TELL HER..."Shape up, or
I'm outta here...!" (It almost seems threatening, but maybe she'd open
her eyes).
If she loves you, she'll respect your feelings and your desires. If she
can't repect you, or want to give you affection, then it's time to look
for a new lover.
This is just my opinion. I'm sure noone will like it, but it's how I feel;
and like I said, I've been through it before (I'd say probably a lot of men
have been through it before). My $0.02 worth...I hope it helps.
-Darren
-AKA "The Doctor"
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