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- From: dwells@lonestar.utsa.edu (Darren . Wells)
- Subject: Re: Gender-specific needs
- Message-ID: <1992Nov23.174643.8480@ringer.cs.utsa.edu>
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- Organization: University of Texas at San Antonio
- References: <1992Nov18.155522.18739@cbnews.cb.att.com> <1992Nov18.222252.28857@Princeton.EDU> <1ejv9vINNcgh@cuda.add.itg.ti.com>
- Date: Mon, 23 Nov 1992 17:46:43 GMT
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- In article <1ejv9vINNcgh@cuda.add.itg.ti.com> winsor@geek.NoSubdomain.NoDomain (js) writes:
- >
- >|> Anyway, let me know how things work out--I'm a teeny bit jealous
- >|> you found her before I did! Oh, and, <raises hand timidly> how do you
- >|> about letting a motss know you're attracted to him or her? I really have
- >|> no clue (but Elf can confirm my cluelessness, I think (-;)
- >
- ><also timidly raises hand>
- >I've been outta circulation for more than a while, and don't think I ever
- >knew (in the first place) how to hint to a motss. Is it different with
- >men versus women?
-
- Okay, this really struck a chord with me. I don't know if it's different
- for men than women, but I know from experience that it is hell for a man.
- (at least from my perspective) There is a really nice, very attractive
- guy who does the yardwork at my apartment complex, and I was attracted to
- him almost instantly. I have lived there for over 2 years, and I have yet
- to figure out a way a) to express this to him, or b) to feel even reasonably
- sure whether or not the feelings are mutual.
-
- I get all kinds of mixed signals from him . . . there are times he really
- seems to be holding eye contact a little too long, or seems a little too
- interested in making a conversation out of a 'hello' for there to not be
- any attraction, but then there are times when it seems he is just really
- really friendly to everybody and I am having a big-time case of wishful
- thinking. It's damn frustrating. >:-#
-
- But right now the whole question is irrelevant, because it seems another
- person has swept me off my feet . . . but I think it will always kind of
- be a question lingering in the back of my mind.
-
- The biggest inhibiting factors here are a) he is part of the apartment
- staff, and if he is a paranoid straight man then he might say/do things
- to make life at that complex complicated for me, and b) he is a big man,
- probably around 6'2" and very muscular, so if I caught him on a bad day
- he could very well decide to break something on my body. (ouch)
-
- Hope I'm not jumping into the middle of a thread several days after it
- has already died, and everyone else has forgotten about it . . .
-
- Darren
-
-
- >
- >*huggles*
- >js
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