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- From: Albert-Lunde@nwu.edu (Albert Lunde)
- Subject: Re: Problem: the teddy-bear syndrome
- Message-ID: <1992Nov16.035731.6807@news.acns.nwu.edu>
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- Originator: lunde@casbah.acns.nwu.edu
- Sender: lunde@casbah.acns.nwu.edu (Albert Lunde)
- Reply-To: Albert-Lunde@nwu.edu (Albert Lunde)
- Organization: Ministry of Silly Walks
- References: <1992Nov15.114228.526@midway.uchicago.edu>
- Date: Mon, 16 Nov 1992 03:57:31 GMT
- Lines: 24
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- In article <1992Nov15.114228.526@midway.uchicago.edu>
- mbr2@midway.uchicago.edu writes:
- > These are in conflict because my community in general believes
- >that I'm a wonderful, close, cuddly, non-romantic, A-sexual friend.
- >Teddy-bear. I want my community to believe that I'm open to intimate,
- >loving relationships, which is true. I'm much more so open now than I
- >was a year ago, when no less than four different women did indeed
- >envision me as a romantic, sexual being and heartily pursued me. (It's
- >beyond me what, if anything, I was doing different.)
- >Somehow, society is not receiving the same signal I'm sending.
-
- This strikes a chord in me, as I have said a times I wanted folk to think
- of me as an "anatomically realistic teddy bear".
-
- It seems to be hard to convey the message that one wants to be cuddly and
- non-threatening *and* earnestly romantic/sexual/lustful at the same time.
-
- Talking about it might help, or it might just illuminate the extent of the
- problem.
-
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- Albert Lunde | Interfaith | *Y*Y* "A branch on the
- Albert-Lunde@nwu.edu | Bisexual | *Y* tree of life"
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