|
Grrowl Readers Leave Toothmarks...
Re: Women Dogging Women (Snarl! March/April, 1998)
From: Alia
First, just let me say that this is a subject I have thought a lot about, having been in the
situation before...and I agree with your viewpoint!!
I think a lot of the reason we as women get angry at the other woman is that we are afraid of our
anger at the man driving him away. It's all too easy to fear losing the man in question to the woman
who *didn't* get angry at him! So it's as much pride as anything else...
Two things that make me very angry about this: that we think we must be so accomodating of men, so
that we don't face the singlehood stigma we seem to construct for ourselves...and that we are so
willing to fight (by NOT fighting!!) for such an unworthy prize.
Re: Women Dogging Women (Snarl! March/April, 1998)
From: Jenn
Hear Hear!!! I completely agree with Tami! I've been baffled myself by this "catfight" phenomon.
I've lost boyfriends to other woman...but the thing is as much as I *want* to be mad at them the
real brunt of my collective feelings deserves to fall on the shoulders of Mr. Perfect himself..
I truly don't believe that *any* woman for that matter is such a temptress that she can snatch away
any man from a loving, committed relationship..If he chooses to be
with someone else..thats his choice and his loss...the woman is not completely to blame.. I'm so
glad someone else has seen this as a truth too!!! Thanks for writing that!!!
Re: Women Dogging Women (Snarl! March/April, 1998)
From: Nora
I think that each relationship is different and so each cheat is different. YES, you've got friends
that behave that way when they are cheated on, but all your friends don't do it do they? Some women
really do thing men are more important than friends,jobs,sanity,children, etc.
Other women realize how pathetic fighting for a deadend relationship is and so they move on.
Re: Women Dogging Women (Snarl! March/April, 1998)
From: JaNae
You are so right. My friends thought I was crazy when my boyfriend cheated on me and I didnt get
angry at the girl. But she wasnt the one i had a relationship with. HE was. I didnt know her. I knew
HIM, and HE was the one who hurt me.
Re: Say Anything (March/April, 1998)
From: Lisa
I think we know the same men! I would love to hear an honest "I just want sex" response from a man. If he was honest about it, he just might get what he wants.
Re: Say Anything (March/April, 1998)
From: Danielle
The only men that can tell you what they want immediately are the ones that know. Many resort to lust when they don't understand the feelings they encounter around certain women. (Like fear) The author expresses her ideas in a clear and engaging manner.
Re: Say Anything (March/April, 1998)
From: Cilla
Oh man I loved your story! It's too funny. However I have to say one thing.
Guys are as human and confused as women can be. I know that I don't
always know what I want when I meet someone and I'll find it hard to communicate simply because I don't know and I'm selfish and I'm scared. I suspect that all of us feel this way at one point or another. I do agree with you that that all parties involved in an encounter should learn how to be honest and at least try to communicate.
Re: The Edge (March/April, 1998)
From: Leslie
I thought The Edge was powerful and honest and full of emotions that many of us feel ..but can't always express as effectively.
Re: The Edge (March/April, 1998)
From: Kay
What a wonderful poem! You feel as if you're there floating away on the clouds I wish I could write poems like this!!!
By the way the whole page is cool! I will be visiting again.
Re: Pennies (March/April, 1998)
From: Adora
An intense representation of emotion. I can relate to this in a big way. More than I should probably admit, given that anger is such an unpopular emotion. I guess that's why I feel compelled to comment...it's a powerful poem from a fellow angry woman.
Re: Pennies (March/April, 1998)
From: Maigin
I really could relate. I know that sounds dippy. But I could. For once. For once in my life.
Re: Pennies (March/April, 1998)
From: Chrissy
This girl is a genius. I've read both of her Grrowl entries and each totally.. kick ass. I look forward to more of her writing, and have enjoyed her webpages tremendously..
Re: You Don't Bring Me Flowers (March/April, 1998)
From: Liz
I love poetry and write some myself, and I love YOu Don't Bring me Flowers Anymore. The symbols are wonderful and it is really deep and makes you think.
Re: You Don't Bring Me Flowers (March/April, 1998)
From: Jayne
This poem was so touching-it made me cry.
Re: You Don't Bring Me Flowers (March/April, 1998)
From: Nicola
Brilliant, this is a very symbolic and meaniningful poem.
You must have been inspired deeply
Re: Her Bittersweet Revenge (March/April, 1998)
From: DG
It made me cry. I'll never think about killing myself again.
Re: Her Bittersweet Revenge (March/April, 1998)
From: Jen
I really understand this writing. It even made me cry, my mother's own suicide still troubles me,
I often have to write about it just so I won't start thinking of ridiculous things, like how I was to
blame. Suicide is a hard thing to deal with, and reading this makes me believe I can write as well
as you about it, and let other people know what a truly painful and terrible thing suicide is not
only to the person who commits it, but mostly to everyone surrounding that person.. I cant forgive
my mother for leaving me, but I can come to peace as you did. I didnt do it with faith in any god,
but I did it on my own, by writing and becoming stronger. I really loved your writing.
Re: Her Bittersweet Revenge (March/April, 1998)
From: Dana
My God. This brought back so many memories. About two years ago I thought about killing myself. But when I look at my life now, I say to myself, "Look at everything I would have missed!"
Re: Her Bittersweet Revenge (March/April, 1998)
From: Jeannette
I tried to commit sucide when I was 18, three years ago..your words
spoke to me and I think that they are quite acurate..also, as a person
who viewed death as my only way out I want to reconfirm your thought
that it was in no way your fault..it wasn't until I was in the hospital
having my stomach pumped and on a heart monitor that I realized just what
I did have and how foolish I was to give it up...thank you for being the
best friend that Hayden could have had..one who could accept her even in
her death..one who doesnt judge but cares for her instead...and thank
you for being so open....it is a wonderful thing...
|