It's quite apparent those girls who think for themselves but have a
strong
conservative bent are not welcome, because-- damnit-- we're just *too*
jugdemental. We dare to conceive of a universal morality that applies to
all. We don't get drunk and have sex before marriage-- we're just too
*good*, *confmist* and instruments of patriarchy.
I can tell you that I've been thinking for myself since I was at least in
junior high, and I think for myself. And it is because I think that I
have
come to accept the Catholic Faith. But that automatically makes me an
instrument of a patriarchal Church. Tough shit. Some things are too
complicated to explain to those who won't listen.
I'll tell you what I think will be one of the things which will lead to
the downfall of patriarchy: the acceptance of pre-marital chastity. Women
have been right in denouncing the double standard; but instead of
enforcing the chastity standard on the man, they go out and live up to
the
*male* standard of sexuality, instead of the female standard of
virginity.
Doesn't that strike you as patriarchal? Women have always been the
primary
guardians of virginity, and it is because we live in such a patriarchal
(read: lust-crazed) world that it has been devalued. Domination comes
from
the fact that women want to please; and the men want to fuck (and I mean
that in the most negative sense possible). Since women have been
brain-washed by the patriarchy into believing that men's lust can't be
controlled, and that sex is *not* worth waiting for, women have decided
to go
to the lower standard. Because they want to be *good* girls to the
lust-crazed
patriarchy, so they feel they have to do it.
Once women *demand* that men wait for marriage, dating will be less
plagued with mind games and stupid lines to get women into bed. Men will
be forced to see women not as sex objects but as full-fledged human
beings. When women act like men in this regard, they give men the message
that their behaviour is acceptable: sleeping around and being total
assholes is okay. But chastity in dating demands that you concentrate on
other things: your interests, your personality, your *real* feelings, not
those lies you tell to please the men so you don't lose them. With
chastity, your boyfriend becomes your best friend, and in marriage
becomes
your lover, your real lover, who *knows* you, and not just that shell you
present to the guys so they think you're okay.
Let's face it; in general, men think with their dicks, and this is why
they screw women over. When you practice chasity, you're telling the guy
"I don't want you to think with your dick any more" and you become
equals.
It's not a dating game, it's true friendship. With true friendship,
there's no inequality.
This strong opinion brought to you by:
Chastity Grrl
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Chastity Grrl