My friend Lynda is having problems with her boyfriend steve. Lynda was really upset last week, she had a fued with a person. She was real depressed and her Boyfriend steve got angry at her for feeling depressed and sad.!
If Lynda has you as a friend how will she be lonely? and anyway, let's face it, it would be healthier to feel a bit lonely than to have the bad company of a wanker of a boyfriend. If she feels she's got to love someone to be complete, does it have to be a guy? Doesn't she love her family? Doesn't she love you? She sounds a bit insecure and I think you need to tell her that and help her with it to wean her away from her guy - he's the last thing an insecure person needs.
You could show her this message and the replies. Just to show her how much you care. :)
only 80 kids at your school??????? wow----ther'es like 600 at mine............
This guy obviously has no respect and no intention of loving or caring for Lynda.There is really no point of her staying with him, he is probably going to make her feel more lonely coz it sounds like she needs much more that what he is giving. How could she possibly love someone who treats her like dirt? Steve sounds like a right selfish asshole - Lynda needs to dump him before he does it first, and that will make her feel worse.
Steve sounds like a twerp. I don't jump in all my bf's feuds with people, but I don't get mad at him when he's upset over them. It sounds like Steve doesn't want her to express feelings in front of him. If that's what he wants maybe he should date a statue that can't talk, move or think! Seeing as everyone I know gets upset at times, it's unrealistic for him to think she should hide her pain.
um....maybe he was brought up that way and he does'nt know how to express his feelings and caring for her in another way besides anger. Maybe he does'nt mean to come off as a jerk.
This isnt the first time, h always gets angry with her when he should be comforting her and holding her and reassuring her that everything's gonna be alright.
He also Flirts with all the girls infront of Lynda.
I told her to dump him cause he's not woth the extra stress she goes through. But the only thing stopping her is loneliness
Because we go to a small school (80kids) she wont have anyone to be with, and she feels empty without loveing someone. What should i tell her to do? are there any sayings or poems i can give he to ease her pain...I love her very much and it kills me to see her in pain........
thank you
from J.B
By Chas on Saturday, October 17, 1998 - 08:21 am:
If needs be, find her a nice guy to love and make her feel good about herself. Just get her away from Steve, and don't feel you're being brutal by doing that - she doesn't need him, she just thinks she does, but in reality he's doing more harm than good.
By Fashion Queen on Saturday, October 17, 1998 - 05:10 pm:
By Anonymous on Saturday, October 17, 1998 - 05:57 pm:
By Galaxy Caramel on Thursday, October 22, 1998 - 05:58 pm:
You are a very good friend and you're right about him not being worth it. As long as she has friends and family like you she will never become lonely. Tell her that.
Grrls don't always need boyfriend to keep them happy and feel secure.
Hope this helps J
ps. Go Chas! & Good idea Fashion Queen
By Atarigrrl on Friday, October 30, 1998 - 03:48 pm:
If he's really flirting with girls in front of her and not just talking to them, then he should take another look at the relationship. Why is he "shopping" while he's taken?
Lynda ought to end the relationship. It doesn't sound worth it and she sounds really unhappy with him. Even if she doesn't date anyone else for a while, at least she can spend time being herself and not who he thinks she should be.
By Anonymous on Wednesday, November 4, 1998 - 01:45 am: