Masturbation


NrrdGrrl! Discussion Forum: Just Plain Talk: Masturbation
By Sarah on Wednesday, March 25, 1998 - 05:56 pm:

Is it okay to masturbate everyday? Any ideas on variations?


By Shannon on Wednesday, March 25, 1998 - 07:24 pm:

Okay? Okay?! Are you kidding? It's a great idea! Here's an activity that doesn't cost anything, doesn't contain calories, doesn't require help, relieves stress and can be tailored to *your* liking. :) It kind of makes me sad when some girls say that they don't do it... I guess to each's own, but they're missing out on a lot. As for variations, well, I may admit to doing it, but I'm not bold enough to admit details. :)


By Lee on Wednesday, March 25, 1998 - 08:01 pm:

It's a perfectly, healthy, natural thing to do. There are books out there on the topic. If you keyword search Amazon (there's a link on this site to Amazon books) using the word masturbation, it'll probably turn up a bunch of books, which can both reassure that this is perfectly normal & give you some new variations.


By Feeling Good on Saturday, March 28, 1998 - 02:47 pm:

Masturbation is definitely OKAY!!!!!!! And everyone, at some point, is going to do it. If you are "in touch" (no pun intended!) with your body, you can really make yourself feel good, and there is nothing wrong with that. When I masturbate, it relieves stress, and I am very energetic after.

Variations? Hmmmmm...I like to use my fingers to rub around my clitoris, that is the best way for me to reach orgasm, personally. Many women use vibrators or dildos, but I dont own a sex toy. I just keep rubbing in circles, getting faster, slower, teasing, then faster again until I have to climax! (CAUTION: Rubbing dorectly on the clitoris might be a little too sensitive, so start circling around the clitoris, instead of directly on it.)

TRY IT, YOU'LL LOVE IT!!!! ENJOY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11


By Wendy on Monday, March 30, 1998 - 08:21 pm:

Try the shower..using the running water either from the faucet or from a moveable shower
head..it's is absolute heaven. And there's nothin wrong with makin urself feel good. The better
u know how to do it, the better u can show others.

Wendy


By Christie on Wednesday, April 1, 1998 - 07:00 pm:

Another thing that feels good, is to pinch your clitoris a little, until you cum. Or maybe find a friend who will explore with you. Maybe you have a girl friend who wouldn't mind masturbating with you. It doesn't mean you are gay, just experimenting. You can even help each other possibly.


By Spunkie on Sunday, April 5, 1998 - 05:13 pm:

There is nothing wrong with masturbation- Most people who condemn it are likely sexually repressed, not the other way around. It is the safest(and often the most pleasurable) form of sex there is. I perform in the same way as Feeling Good and there is nothing to be ashamed about


By Trollybean on Tuesday, April 7, 1998 - 08:30 pm:

the shower thing is definitly the most interesting sensation...and i think the having a partner to explore would also be pretty nifty...anyone up for some exploration...jk:c)


By Neeci on Friday, April 10, 1998 - 07:56 pm:

I will explore with you...


By Anonymous on Sunday, April 12, 1998 - 11:34 pm:

hmmm...sounds like an interesting proposition...


By Demeter on Saturday, April 18, 1998 - 11:11 pm:

MASTURBATION !!!! GO FOR IT !!!!
I never knew the term or what it was, coming from a "SEX IS BAD AND DIRTY GENERATION" (wow!! there are lots of generations like that still !!! !! ha ha ) till i was 17 !! my doctor told me about it!! He even gave me this book all about sexuality .............. Unfortunately MY sexually repressed mother found it on my dresser and threw it in the garbage....... but lucky for me , i had already read, studied and had the technique down !!!! It changed my life !!! wow!!! The only "DIRTY" thing about it was if i had a wild and heavy orgasm and not enough tissue.And i can handle that!! LOL And i certainly didn't see anything "BAD" about it !!! ...lol!!!
Don't worry about the guilt and shame that our culture (namely organized religion ) places on us !! They're just a bunch of control freaks !!


By Que_ on Sunday, April 19, 1998 - 04:01 am:

Masturbating is not such a hot idea after all.

According to my 'teen magazines', I am in the 10% minority when it comes to girls who don't masturbate. Everyone says to do it because it feels good.....well, I'm sorry, but I have better things to do with my time than to sit all by myself whacking off.

I also find it rather disgusting that people jack off and then walk around shaking hands with people, eating, and putting their hands in their mouth. Well, my guy friend seems to think that there is nothing gross about masturbating, and he says it's all natural, and therefor not gross. Even the bodily fluids he says aren't gross because they're natural. Well, I have a question for you grrls. How many of you enjoy rubbing your hands in the blood from your period? Because there could be the same argument that the blood is natural, and nothing bad. Same goes for your poop, too. So, why is it that you are so willing to rub your hands all over your vagina, getting them covered in *stuff* and you think this is not gross or unclean? I think there's something wrong with this picture. Get what I'm saying?

Yes, as opposed to being promiscuous, masturbating would be the better choice, helping calm people down as they try to be abstinent. That is the only valid reason I can see for masturbating- preventing the spread of disease.

I am not a conservative, nor do I believe in being uptight, but masturbation is just a disgusting indulgence which takes time that could be spent doing something more....constructive.

That's all I have to say, well not really, but this is too long. And I'm sure I'm going to get a lot of heat from this.


By Shampoo on Sunday, April 19, 1998 - 04:07 am:

I respect my body, thank you very much, and I don't care what any of you say about "go for it" or "it feels really good", i am NOT going to do it, and it's not because of religion or control freaks, it's because I think it's disgusting, and don't even wanna think about it.

I'm proud of myself for not doing it all this time (I'm 16). I think it's an accomplishment for me, and I'm proud of myself.

Masturbation *is* dirty, and it *is* gross, and I am never ever ever going to do it, and I'm NOT the only person who feels that way!! Treat your body with respect. Sex is meant for two people who love each other as an act of love and commitment.


By Melanie152hotmail.com on Sunday, April 19, 1998 - 07:33 am:

well you two non-indulgers..
speak for yourself.. if you wanna... do, if you dont, dont
and shy girl #1..
some ppl put their fingers in their mouth ON PURPOSE!!! oh my GOD!!!
LOL *wink*


By LPG on Sunday, April 19, 1998 - 11:06 am:

Obviously Que and Shampoo are very young, very oppressed little girls who haven't experienced life outside of the walls of mommy and daddy's cute little house with the white picket fence. COME ON! Masturbation is not disgusting. If you think it is, you are missing out on something very good for you and your body.

As you get older, GROW UP, and experience life, you will learn, and most likely if you haven't changed your views on this subject, you will live a very sexually BORING existence. Whoever told you that masturbation is DISGUSTING is a close-minded, ignorant person. Take a few clues form the posts before yours, especially the one by DEMETER. It is sad, because views such as these lead you to be a very close-minded person in other areas of your life, too.

Que, having better things to do with your time---GOOD FOR YOU---but guess what? Most of the people who masturbate DO have things to do also. Just because a person masturbates does not mean they have nothing else BETTER to do, or that they masturbate all the time. GET A CLUE, SISTER! (And the last time I checked, after I go to the bathroom to take care of my bodily functions, I WASHED my hands thoroughly.....so what is the problem?)

Shampoo, YES, sex is meant for 2 people who love each other....but how does that make masturbation wrong, dirty, or disgusting? I will give you the benefit of the doubt because you are so young, and have a lot to learn as you grow up.

For your info, in case anyone is wondering, I am a well-educated, married professional, who hopes that someday my daughter will MASTURBATE and ENJOY HERSELF!!!


By Shampoo on Sunday, April 19, 1998 - 03:04 pm:

I'm with Que - masturbating is gross, and that's my own oppinion, I don't even wanna think about it.


By Que_ on Sunday, April 19, 1998 - 03:15 pm:

I do not live in a white picket-fence neighborhood. I have been exposed to sex all my life. Everyone in my family is very comfortable with their sexuality; we even walk around the house naked. It's like a little nudist colony of sorts. So don't tell me that I am naive or that I am a "little girl" who hasn't been out in the world. Just because i think masturbating is gross!? That's really judgemental, first of all, and so why are you calling me closed-minded?

I am glad you wash your hands. But it's the theory of the whole thing. You shake hands with people, with the same hand you jack off with.....I think there's something wrong with that, I don't know if it's disrespectful, or just plain tacky.

I personally think that sex is meant fr two people, like Shampoo said. This isn't one of the things that makes masturbation dirty, but it does make it a little bit wrong. So, you don't believe in saving yourself for the right man/woman? Because really, you've tossed that value aside if you think there's nothing wrong with reaching orgasm with yourself.

Lastly, no one TOLD me that masturbation is bad or dirty. I come up with my own views and opinions, thank you very much. In fact, as I said above, society (ie teen mags) has tried so hard to pressure us into masturbation. It's like everyone's saying "Come on, everyone's doing it! It's fun, you'll like it!" The fact that I choose not to does not have anything to do with me being sheltered or naive or young.

Also, I suppose I am in the minority after all. SO, there's no point in me voicing my opinion, because like all you people keep telling me, my opinion is obviously wrong.

Have fun people.


By Trollybean on Sunday, April 19, 1998 - 03:39 pm:

Excuse me, the same endorphins and hormones are released from the thalamus and hypothalamus upon oragasm as when eating large quantities of chocolate, so what is the difference? We participate in an activity that makes us feel better, with the same effects as chocolate, but without the calories.
Oh and also, most people shake hands with the same hand they wipe themselve with...so i don't see what it matters...
then, what about the hands that you would use in a regular sexual encounter...a two person one...you know lots of hands are used there...so does that make them gross to?


By Marie Hioug on Sunday, April 19, 1998 - 05:48 pm:

what a controversial subject. touchy touchy (wink). sorry, that was a bit grotesque.

to Que_: if your family is all walking around naked, you might have other things to worry about than what the people in this chat room are doing in the shower.

to everyone who has said something about hands: hey guys, hands go everywhere. they get dirty. even of you wash your hands really well, there are still micro-organisms and bacteria on them. under a microscope, your hands are disgusting before you masterbate, before you pee, before you cook dinner... masterbating does nothing to cleanse or dirty your hands anymore than they were before.


By Laughing at YOU on Sunday, April 19, 1998 - 09:17 pm:

Que, please grow up and put some clothes on!


By Shampoo on Monday, April 20, 1998 - 12:25 am:

Hey, don't bug Que!! I thought we were all allowed to have our own oppinions about stuff, so why are you *insulting* instead of giving actual *reasons* to back you up? (This is directed to Laughing at YOU and LPG).

Maybe Que and I are young, but does that mean we're not allowed to have our own oppinions, and express them? I guess not. Sorry, I thought I was in a pro-girl website, I guess I was WRONG!!!


By Amelia Wilson (Admin) on Monday, April 20, 1998 - 01:08 am:

Okay, okay, time for your friendly moderator to stick her nose in here and request that the debate be KEPT ON THE TOPIC AT HAND AND NOT BE DIRECTED AT INDIVIDUALS

Folks have different views, that's all there is to it, and that's what this board is for. Calling someone names is not a very good method of persuasion, that's for sure. Please keep it on topic!


By Eliste on Monday, April 20, 1998 - 01:10 am:

thanks Amanda... I was going to say that but you beat me to it! thanks!!!


By Shannon on Monday, April 20, 1998 - 03:03 pm:

I'm not trying to insult anyone here, but I don't understand. Those of you who are againist masturbation say that it's really gross because you're getting *stuff* on your hands (I always called it "quim"), and that yes, it may be natural, but so it menstrual blood and feces. I understand your point, but what's the difference between masturbation and sex? I mean, sex involves a lot more fluids than masturbation, and they might get on your hands, too. And what's so respectful about thinking your body is gross, and not wanting to touch it? It seems to me that I respect my body, also, I respect it so much that I know how to make it feel good. And if masturbation is wrong because it doesn't involove a partner, what if it *does* involves a partner? Mutual masturbation is a great idea for people who wish to abstain from sex before marriage. Once again, I respect everyone's opinion, just expressing mine. :)


By Lee on Monday, April 20, 1998 - 09:05 pm:

Hey, as long as it's not in public (just ask George Michael about that one :-) or interfering w/school or work, etc. masturbation is a perfectly, normal & healthy thing to do.

Let's look at the objections:

1) According to a few people here, it's "gross". As long as one washes one's hands before or after, what's the big deal? Ever garden? Guess what's fertilizing the soil? Ever change a baby's diaper? Plus the previously mentioned sex & bathroom business :-)

Anyways, as long as they've washed their hands, I'd much rather shake hands w/people who've been masturbating than stand next to people who are wearing too much cologne or smoking, which have triggered asthma attacks in the past for me.

2) It's a waste of time which could be better used elsewhere. Yeah, what isn't? Watching tv, listening to music, applying makeup & a whole variety of other things can be viewed as a waste of time too. P.S. I wear makeup, so this shouldn't be construed, along w/the cologne comments as some sort of anti-cosmetics thing.

3) Saving those physical sensations for my true love. Good luck :-) I reallly hope everyone finds true love, but not everyone's quite so lucky & people have needs. Masturbation's a good healthy way to meet them.

I don't mean to judge anyone, but different people have different sex drives. If you don't want to masturbate, don't, no one's holding a gun to your head. For a lot of people though, this is a good, healthy release.

Not to sound ageist, but I suggest those of you who are so grossed out by masturbation think about this discussion in a decade or so. I'm 32 & I feel differently about some of the things that grossed me out at 16. You may too.


By Lee on Monday, April 20, 1998 - 09:11 pm:

P.S. to my last message:

Getting back to the true love thing, I think being in touch w/one's body & its sensations will help one to differentiate between love & lust. The more one can recognize the physical components (& in fact supply them oneself), the more one is likely to appreciate the emotional & intellectual components.


By LPG on Monday, April 20, 1998 - 10:24 pm:

Go on, GRRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I 100% agree with LEE.

*high five*


By Keely on Wednesday, April 22, 1998 - 04:36 pm:

First of all i would like to congradulate those women who are opening admitting that they masturbate!!
I am 17 and being a teenager i find that although guys can discuss methods of masturbation at lunch time, girls my age almost never admit to it and usually express that it is a disgusting habit. I was 16 when i first admitted that i masturbate. I told my boyfriend, and two close girl friends. all also admitted that they masturbate. I have now come to think that perhaps the girls who are so anti-masturbation have probably never explored their bodies and are not comfortable with them.

personaly i can only have an orgasim by masturbating......sex doesn't do it for me....

I would like to know why people find personal pleasure a bad thing.... I was never told by anyone that masturabtion is wrong, except some friends.
Hey does anyone remember that episode of Seinfeld where they have the bet on who can go the longest without masturbating? What i loved about the episode was that Elaine was in on it too.

Keely
P.S.
I am trying to be as open minded about this as possible so i hope i did not offend anyone.
:)


By Anonymous on Friday, April 24, 1998 - 02:38 pm:

masturbation can be a wonderful release, but like many things, it can be addictive. for more information, search on sex addicts anonymous.

anon sex addict


By Don on Saturday, April 25, 1998 - 04:37 pm:

Not being a woman, I don't know what all goes along with a woman when she masturbates. I do know quite a bit about why men do. As far as I have seen, it is not good. Let me explain.

First of all the men I have talked to honestly about the matter site two main reasons for masturbating: pleasure and anesthetic. It obviously goes much deeper and is complex (like people).

As far as pleasure goes (seemingly obvious) it usually comes down to loneliness and trying to fulfill it. I promise that it doesn't cure loneliness. Another reason is cowardice. Kind of a harsh term, but whether they admit it or not, men are intimidated by women.

Anesthetic, on the other hand, temporarily removes the lie (which men tell themselves) that sexual fulfillment is the sum of what they actually need. It also abates the natural desire to win the affection of a desireable woman. 'Great' solution, no? Now you are a little further down the spiral slide of thinking that gratification can fill emptiness.

If I may make one point not related directly to masturbation, it is that the need is for intimacy. Definately not just sexual pleasure. Orgasms are good. My personal stance is that good things are best shared.

A little side note: For men, the urge and thought (if not the underlying reason) of masturbation is usually stimulation and orgasm. This may seem great, but it seems to me to more be a trap. You train yourself to climax quickly. You train your body to respond to certain stimuli. Then when you are with a woman, the stimuli aren't the same. Usually the quick part happens anyway. If my understanding is correct, this isn't something women advocate as a good skill.

It seems to me that loving a person and working toward mutual understanding with that person on all levels is more rewarding. You don't get instantaneous response, since a person doesn't read minds and a hand might as well be able to. (Isn't that what learning to communicate is all about?) If the energy given to masturbation, and the desire that leads to it is instead invested in another person, the reward comes more slowly, but much more lastingly. The real culprit of loneliness cannot live long in the presence of relationship.

Perhaps some of this will make sense to women too. It is a risk. Your hand, after all, usually doesn't reject you.


By Lee on Saturday, April 25, 1998 - 05:54 pm:

Don, a few questions/observations:

1) A big difference between men & women when it comes to sex is the possibility of pregnancy. Masturbation results in neither pregnancy nor STDs. For people who aren't ready/willing to deal w/the consequences (emotional & physical) of intercourse, masturbation is a good, healthy release. I don't have any kids, but if I had kids, I'd much rather they masturbate than risk pregnancy & STDs, not to mention the emotional consequences of sex before they're ready.

Back in the early 90s, Phil Donahue was hosting a show about parents who would let their teens have some time alone in the house so they could be intimate w/their boyfriends/girlfriends. A few people in the audience were suprised/angry at this, but most were pretty calm. A caller said he told his teenaged niece that sometimes sex was more about power than love & that she should wait until she was confident enough in her ability to tell the difference between the 2 before she had sex with anyone. He suggested she masturbate in the meantime to deal w/any urges she might have. The whole audience was shocked, including the parents who let their kids have the place to themselves. IMHO, the guy was the most sensible voice on the whole show.

2) Who says solo masturbation (as opposed to mutual) detracts from the search for true love? Unless someone's doing it all the time, thereby, precluding meeting people, it's not. Most people would prefer to be in an intimate realtionship w/someone they care about, but it's not always feasible, for any variety of reasons. People have needs & it's one way to meet them. Even people in relationships masturbate, it's a good way to deal w/separation or if one person's in the mood & the other isn't.


By DEMETER on Sunday, April 26, 1998 - 10:31 pm:

OH GODDESS!! GODDESS!!! GODDESS!!!!!
I think i will sing an affirmation song !!!

Repeat after me !!

I LOVE MASTURBATION DO DA DO DA

I LOVE MASTURBATION ALL THE DO DA

DAY!!!!!!

AND NO I'M NOT A SEX ADDICT!!!!! I loooove pleasuring MYSELF !!!!
MMMM MMM yum yum !!!!


By Keely on Monday, April 27, 1998 - 05:49 pm:

Demeter's little chant reminds of a song from the musical "Hair". It's called Sodomy and the chorus goes something like this:

"masturbation, can be fun,
join the holy orgy,
karma sutra, everyone......"

(i am sure that i messed up the words,but you get the point.)
:)


By Fiona on Wednesday, May 6, 1998 - 12:17 pm:

Well I'd like to agree with everyone who says that girls don't tend to talk openly about masturbation whereas blokes do. I told my friends that I touch myself and even though they all said they'd never done it I am not inclined to believe everyone of them. I am 14 and I let it slip in a conversation but I didn't feel bad coz I am sure a few of them have either done it or will do it at some point in their lives.Occasionally I find they joke about it a bit but other than that they have never really bothered but then I don't see why they should. Blokes do it pretty openly and I reckon it would be a lot easier for us if girls would admit it as well. I can't see why other girls bother coz some will let a boy get his hands in their pants without knowing where his hands have been or bothering about it so why is it *wrong* if a girl pleases herself? I am just glad my friends were not bothered and that I have found a place I could come out and say all this stuff without going red in the face.

Thank you.


By Suz on Thursday, May 7, 1998 - 02:56 pm:

You know my mother actually encouraged me. She said it is completely healthy to touch oneself. She actually "discovered" me one afternoon and I think that was her way of allaying any possible embarrassment for either of us. :}


By Shannon on Thursday, May 7, 1998 - 03:14 pm:

That's so great! :) I hope that when I have kids our relationship can be that open.


By I on Friday, May 8, 1998 - 05:16 pm:

Fiona~~ I know what you mean, everyone I know (I'm 15) seems to be so ashamed of their body...

One of my favourite jokes:
Q: What's the ultimate rejection?
A: When you're masturbating and your hand falls asleep!!

Hope it never happens to you girls. No matter what people say, I think there's NOTHING wrong with masturbating. It's not for everyone, but if you like it, more power to you. And to those who've never tried it...you're missing out.

Love the song Demeter....
I LOVE MASTURBATION DO DA DO DA
I LOVE MASTURBATION ALL THE DO DA DAY!!!!!!


By Anonymous on Friday, May 15, 1998 - 02:39 am:

For those who find that masturbation is a waste
of time and discussing. There is frequently a
connection between these two things.
Generally masturbation is easily and quickly
accomplished by those who find it to be, not
discussing. Initial attitude is extremely
important and plays a major role in what results.

Our initial attitudes are often shaped at a very
early age by certain experiences which we no
longer remember. Many of these old attitudes
can be altered with time. Try to look at this
subject from a slightly different perspective.


By Anonymous on Sunday, May 17, 1998 - 05:56 am:

Masturbation....a word that can bring soooooooo many different opinions and comments!!
Some ppl do it some ppl don't..SO WHAT
everyone is an individual so let them do what they want.
I don't think ANYONE has the right to condemn it.....nor have they the right to condone it......

JUST DO WHAT U WANT!!!
It's UR body not ur partners!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


By Ciggie on Tuesday, May 19, 1998 - 10:27 am:

What the hell? If you want to do that to your body, then you should. If u think its gross then theres no point in it. Live life the way u want to not the way u should


By Anonymous on Monday, May 25, 1998 - 01:37 am:

Hey, hey, hey. I'm 14, and I masturbate. Maybe not everyday...but I do it. One comment someone made was that it's disgusting to shake hands with someone when you masturbated it. Don't you think it's disgusting to kiss your mother with the same mouth that gave oral sex eariler in the week? Deal with it. You wash your mouth...you wash your hands. There's nothing disgusting. Ta ta...


By Shampoo on Thursday, May 28, 1998 - 01:09 am:

hey, listen to that Don guy! he knows what he's talking about! Yay, Don!


By Anonymous on Friday, May 29, 1998 - 07:07 am:

Most of you grrls seem to have this thing sussed - I'm 15 and masturbate occasionally. Like Keely, sex just doesn't do it for me (although I would like it to v. much), which is v. frustrating but something I guess I'll have to deal with. Feel free to answer my question on the My Sex Life page (Just Plain Talk III) - I need all the help I can get!!!
Cheers xxx


By Joe on Wednesday, June 10, 1998 - 05:13 pm:

Hi grrls, its about time a guy puts his input into this delicate discussion/subject. I am 24, has been masturbating for the last who knows when. Some days when the usual in-out gets boring, my girl friend and I masturbate in front of each other and try to turn the other on. Its amazingly affective. Some times I can't ressist her, but we know when we agree to start this, we cannot turn to the in-out at the end. This leaves me harder, and more turned on, and results in more hand-action. She feels the same way. I usually end up coming first. When I am away from her and need some, just the thought turns me on. Try this with your parter


By Curious on Friday, June 12, 1998 - 02:37 pm:

i'm a girl and i would like to know, how do guys masterbate??????


By Normal yesno on Friday, June 12, 1998 - 02:41 pm:

Is it normal to masterbate with a teddy bear. I would take a bear, with a good size hight for me and i would roll around with it naked in my room. then i would have it lay on top of me and pretend that my finger is a guys dick. or i would lay on top of the bear and my finger in my pussy and i would hump it. is that normal???????


By Joe on Friday, June 19, 1998 - 06:39 pm:

Hi Curious, you wanted to know how guys masterbate.... well I am sure there are many methods and tactics, but the most common I feel is the following. One would hold the penis (or dick, you know the organ with the sausage like appearence) in their palm with a firm grip and create a sliding motion along the longitudinal direction. The most sensitive part of the penis is the tip and even more so on the underside of the dick head (usually an inch away from the tip). The faster the motion, the more sensation and harder the dick becomes. A circular motion around the dick head with a combination of jerking motion may provide even a greater sensation. Other methods may involve pretending to penetrate a woman and thus sticking the organ in to soft crevises such as a folded pilow or squeezing the erect penis between the thights, etc... There are too many posibilities and positions to start even thinking about. So if you can fantasize and come up with some bazaar new technique or position, I can guess that it has already been tried by some one out there.

So my question to you grrls is this, do you get tuned on by or fantasize about a guy masterbating? Because for many guy, the thought of seeing a girl masturbate really turns us on.

Hope you enjoyed the read. And please try to answer by burning question. Thanks


By Shampoo on Friday, June 19, 1998 - 11:51 pm:

I don't. (get turned on by fantasizing a guy masturbating). Most girls I know don't, either. I guess cuz we're young or something, but most girls I know and talk to are grossed out by that sort of thing. *Apparantly*, the way everyone here is talking, it's a normal thing, but where I live and go to school, masturbating, both guys and girls, is like something to make fun of. It's definately something not talked about, it just isn't done.

-shampoo
ps: that's only me, i'm sure someone else has got a different oppinion.


By Joanna on Monday, June 22, 1998 - 01:25 pm:

Hiya Normal Yesno!
I'm 14 and guess what........I've done that teddy bear thing before so you're not odd. (Maybe we're both odd!) It's just like practising....I mean when I was about 12 I used to kiss my posters - Same thing. Anyway I want To say that masturbation is so fine and if you feel like it DO IT!!!

See Ya


By Olivia on Tuesday, June 23, 1998 - 07:12 pm:

To all the masturbation nay-sayers:
This is not a bust on your age, but adolescence and high school are two things that contribute a lot to people (boys and girls) feeling a little self-conscious about their bodies. I used to feel that way too, but as you become comfortable with yourself and begin to care less about what others think, you might change your minds. You also might not...if you don't, don't do it!! Whatever is good for you is good for you--but don't condemn it yet in this stage of your life.
As for masturbation being about loneliness, weirdness, or whatever--I disagree. I have been in a relationship for eight years, since I was fourteen(I know it sounds crazy)--getting married in three weeks--and for about the first 5 and a half, my fiance and I tried everything to achieve orgasm for me--it never worked! And granted, most women aren't really taught how their bodies work...Anyway, once on a whim, I tried masturbating with my partner there. It worked great!!! Now not only can I orgasm through masturbation, but I found out how to teach my fiance what is right and he can make me orgasm too! I know that's probably too much info...oh well!


By Anonymous on Wednesday, June 24, 1998 - 01:26 pm:

That is'nt to much detail! I think its great that you can have an or gasm, a lot of women dont !!
I have not had the pleasure(no joke)yet but i might just work on it!!!


By Anonymous on Wednesday, June 24, 1998 - 01:26 pm:

That is'nt to much detail! I think its great that you can have an or gasm, a lot of women dont !!
I have not had the pleasure(no joke)yet but i might just work on it!!!


By Anonymous on Sunday, June 28, 1998 - 01:45 pm:

Just a note: most women find more pleasure, and get more orgasms while masturbating than while having heterosexual sex (I'm not sure whether they included lesbian sex in the study


By Anonymous on Thursday, July 2, 1998 - 08:09 am:

Shampoo-when i was 14 nobody admitted to it. The boys do now and the girls might to their boyfriends, but they still say they think its disgusting, i think its just the age.


By Anonymous on Thursday, July 2, 1998 - 08:21 am:

my parents have pictures of me where i feel asleep on top of a teddy bear when i was 2, i dread bringing boyfriends over. I have nooo idea why i started so young but it felt good and why not? WHen i got into jr high and everyone was making jokes about it REALLY messed me up nobody had ever told me it was nasty before. Finnally i deciced how could i let anyone touch me or me touch someonelse if i wasnt comfortable with my very own body. You dont have to worry about pregency,stds, and hey i know ill have a lifelong partner that wont lie, cheat, or steal from me. I know where MY hands been, but im notso sure about some of my boyfriends.


By MonkeyGod on Monday, July 6, 1998 - 04:19 pm:

This is about the message from Don. He seems to think that men masturbate to replace a "normal" sexual relationship.
Maybe, for you, this is true, but it's not for most guys. Almost every guy gets horny, some more often than others. Most guys mearly masturbate to alleviate this.
I've been in a relationship that includes sexual intercourse for over three years now, and we both still masturbate. Don is wrong to think that masturbation is there only to cover up problems. It certainly never stopped me from going out to find somebody else. It never turned me into a maniac who would poke anything that moved (I turned a few girls down before I lost my virginity). As for my performance, if you do it right, it can increase your chances of multiple orgasm.
So yee ha.


By Anonymous on Monday, July 6, 1998 - 06:24 pm:

I just want to say that the the first time I masturbated, I was only 12 years old, and I am still going strong at 17... I find it's easier to admit to it to boys than girls, though...


By Anonymous on Thursday, July 9, 1998 - 12:20 am:

lol!
Ya'll are funny!


By Ultraviolet on Monday, July 13, 1998 - 09:19 pm:

To Shampoo and Que_,

I'm 15 (16 in one month!!) and not so long ago, I thought masturbation was totally gross and didn't even want to think about it. Then, I just got really curious and decided to try it. I haven't orgasmed yet, so I can't that it's been wonderful or that it changed my life or anything, but it doesn't feel bad. Some people here are saying they started at 12! I wasn't even thinking about that back then! Don't feel rushed, just do it when it feels comfortable, or never ever do it, whatever you wish.

P.S. Haven't you ever gotten an itch down there and scratched it? You get your hands 'dirty'? What's the difference then?


By Anonymous on Tuesday, July 14, 1998 - 04:28 pm:

It's soooo weird - but I started masturbating when I was MUCH younger than 12.


By Anonymous on Wednesday, July 15, 1998 - 05:48 am:

i like to know specifically how a girl masturbate,thank you


By Pottygirl on Monday, July 20, 1998 - 05:01 pm:

I love to do it while I'm sitting on the toilet. At school, at home, anywhere. I rub my clit and then shove a finger into my cunt. I get very wet and then pump my finger in and out faster, harder, I just love the sensation of sitting on the toilet.


By Marsha on Monday, July 20, 1998 - 05:46 pm:

Pottygirl-
Doesn't your butt fall asleep?


By PottyGirl on Tuesday, July 21, 1998 - 01:19 pm:

In our house we have the bigger toilets, elongated I think? They are very comfortable if you want to sit a long time. The toilet seats are plastic and contoured and hug your butt.


By Anonymous on Thursday, July 23, 1998 - 03:50 pm:

anybody got any good suggestions on how to do it???


By Anonymous on Thursday, July 23, 1998 - 08:27 pm:

HELLO?!?! It really bothers me that women make such a big deal about masturbation while for men it more acceptable. I once saw an episode of Rosanne where her son was masturbating. Rosanne told her husband to deal with it because she talked to the girls when they got their periods. After that I was under the impression that girls don't masturbate. I was masturbating and not even realizing it. I've heard that there are women (possibly married) who have NEVER in their life had an orgasm.. I see nothing wrong with making yourself feel good. Masturbation can help you find out what feels good and improve your sex with a loving partner.


By Anonymous on Friday, July 24, 1998 - 04:24 pm:

what exactly does an orgasm feel like, and how do you get one??????????


By Queenmasterbater on Monday, July 27, 1998 - 12:47 am:

Hi I just wanted to say, that I that I do it every night. It feels so so good It make you shiver.You get really tense and then you want to do it again. I love it try it tonight TRUST me you'll love it :-)


By Queenmasterbater on Monday, July 27, 1998 - 12:48 am:

Hi I just wanted to say, that I that I do it every night. It feels so so good It make you shiver.You get really tense and then you want to do it again. I love it try it tonight TRUST me you'll love it :-)


By Elisabeth on Friday, August 7, 1998 - 10:58 am:

i've only ever told 2 people (well, besides y'all *blush*); my best friend when i was 13 & discovered it & wanted to know if it was weird (she didn't know what i was talking about & i couldn't explain it) and a guy i dated for a while who thought i was a priss. and i've heard a lot of girls say they don't. my question is, if they don't, why do they have to announce this? and, also ... everyone has a body. you touch your genitals from time to time - washing, on the toilet, if you use OB tampons. How can you NOT explore?


By Shampoo on Saturday, August 8, 1998 - 11:12 pm:

Uh... it's easier then it sounds to you (not exploring). The way everyone is talking here makes it sound like almost every girl does it, but that's not true.


By Anonymous on Sunday, August 23, 1998 - 12:04 am:

Every girl does do it Shampoo. Little girls "explore" as early as 2 because they discover it feels good. They don't realize it's "dirty" or unacceptable.. Children should be taught that masturbation is a private thing and that it should not be done in public places. I am not saying to encourage it but harsh punishment is cruel and can have lifelong effects.
Eventually a young woman should make up her own mind about what she is comfortable with. As long as the masturbation isn't taking up most of the day and as long as it isn't causing physical pain or bodily injury.... Go for it.
I'm not trying to pick on you but it sounds like someone made you feel ashamed about something you should NOT feel guilty for.
I also have a hard time believing you NEVER even tried it? Come on, admit it, you're among friends.


By Shampoo on Sunday, August 23, 1998 - 02:42 am:

nope, i have never ever ever tried it. i'm sorry to disappoint you, anonymous, but i swear, seriously, i have never ever ever once ever tried it. i would admit it if i have, because you girls all did, but i haven't. not once. not even a little bit.


By Ranma on Sunday, August 23, 1998 - 03:06 am:

god, that's got to take will power...


By JC on Sunday, August 23, 1998 - 05:03 pm:

i am with the the "pro-mastubartion" folk here and would like to add a perspective on it i don't think anyone has mentioned. it seems to me that with the unfortunate turn sex has taken in the last 18 years (don't think i have to explain), masturbation seems like a good solution to the sizeable curtailing of the two( but-not-three, mind u )people-sex Shampoo & Que have mentioned as one argument against it....

simply put, nowadays you just can't have sex, not without worrying at least some....hey condons tear take me word for it, and a steady boyfriend or girlfriend could've had sex with someone else who was "positive?" so, the solution? why not relieve the tension and have fun in the process with the only 100 percent full proof sex method? (Que & Shampoo?: there's another 100 percent full proof method called abstinence i know, but I recommend some music to go along with that too. but puleaze do me a favor, don't listen to KennyG.... )

by the way, JC stands for Jake Charles R. and am a guy........... :-)

PS1: hey " anonymous?" if you wanna reach an orgasm follow the suggestions given by others on masturbation but also try "stopping and starting" when you feel "it" growing. "it" is the orgasm buidling wich starts with an ache and builds into... well u know. and you know you have reached it when u have two really hard spasms of pleasure followed by some weaker ones. women can "re-charge" in minutes and have several more even harder than the first. men have to wait longer before reaching one again, and each orgasm is weaker than the first.

PS2: I guess I better say this: am a psych major, yes . . . jake:-) (GREAT DISCUSSION!!!!!!!)


By Anonymous on Wednesday, September 9, 1998 - 11:56 pm:

I have been masturbating since I was 3 years old. I was siting on the arm of a chair and it felt nice. I used to ride it like a horse, but I neveer understood why it felt good. I just assumed horse riding was fun!
When I was 13 some older girls in the gym change were talking about orgasms. It was then I realised I had felt them.I'm 18 and I now masturbate by rolling fingers over my clit.
I met my boyfriend two years ago, we've been sexually active for one and a half, and I am one of those VERY lucky, rare girls who orgasmed at the same time I lost my virginity. I feel I have wanking to thank. I do it about twice a week particularly to ease stress and find new and interesting ways to orgasm.
Here's to cracking yourself!!!!!!!!!!


By Butterfly on Friday, October 2, 1998 - 12:37 pm:

I found out about masturbating when I was about 15 by accident! I was in the bathtub and
found out that if i let the watwer falling out of the faucet go over my clit, it felt good!!

REALLY GOOD!

I came the first time, and have been doing it regularily ever since, but now its the
only way I can come, and I'm not sure why. I can alternate while I'm in the tub witrh my
hands and the water on me, but ultimately if I'm not int he tub, I cannot come.

WHY?

If anyone has any advice, please forward it on, my water bill is huge! :)


By Lois on Friday, November 6, 1998 - 06:33 am:

hey butterfly.
i had a similar experience. i think i was 14, maybe younger and i always washed between my legs, and i knew if i left the shower head in one particular spot for too long, i started to get a weird feeling. one day, i left it there and wow..
i haven't gone back since.
i can say i have probably masturbated at LEAST once a week since.. that is about 7 years now.
so when i started having sex... i found it hard to reach the same levels. so me & my boyfriend spoke about masturbation (& it's true as many say, it's easier to talk about it with your partner than female friends.). i still haven't experienced an orgasm with my boyfriend that could remotely equal the self inflicted ones.
and a good tip.
use one of those shower heads with a pulsator (massager switch thingy).... need i say more?


By Thora on Monday, November 9, 1998 - 04:23 am:

people have sex drives for a reason OK? we were biologically designed to have sex whenever we have the urge. well, that doesn't always work out nowadays, what with STDs and society and morality and all that, so we have to find other ways to relieve our sexual tension. and i think that masturbation is the best way to do that. i do it several times a week, and it does NOT waste valuable time, since it only takes me about 5 or 10 minutes. if i didn't masturbate, i'd be a much more grouchy, irritable person, the kind of person who feels the need to bitch out people who masturbate. listen, if you don't want to masturbate, don't do it. i have no problem with that. but don't try to tell ME it's wrong. what i do with my body is something that doesn't even affect you and doesn't hurt anyone else, so WHY THE HELL DO YOU CARE?????? i don't care if you DON'T masturbate, so why do you care if i DO?


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