Ok. Well, I'm 15 and I resently lost my virginity. Compared to a lot of girls thats quite old, compared to some girls that's young. I was speaking to a friend recently who doesn't know that I've had sex and she was saying that people must be really desperate to have sex when they're still quite young. I definately beleive in the theory that you know yourself when you're ready. What does everybody else think? I don't regret it at all, and even if i split up with my boyfriend now it wouldn't bother me. Of course I'm not in love with him, but I glad that I've got the big 'first time' over and done with.
personally i think that is kinda young, but whatever suits u. it is your decion but you should really be careful.
I was 18 when I lost it. My girlfriend had broken up with me a couple weeks before and another girl that had been chasing after me came on to me at a party. I jsut sorta' thought "What the hell". No use saving myself for anyone anymore. Bothered me afterwards, though. I thought it sex was supposed to be with someone you really cared for. Weird.
Whatever takes your fancy...
I've heard the average age people lose their virginity now is around 15 or 16. Does anyone know the exact stats?
I was 11 you guys. Most people think thats too young but it was right for me. I think as long as you're safe and YOU want to do it, there is no right age.
Hm, well, yes, interesting topic. I am 14 and I was going to do it a few days ago but I didn't. I didn't do it because:
Why do you want to do it? Is it just because you're turned on around him? You'll find as you go on that it's a good idea to learn not to let that be your main reason for sex. The fact that you've considered the consequences is good. I guess what you might want to do is really think about what sex means to you. It doesn't have to mean anything. Of course, that's the same as burning up a $100 dollar bill, saying it doesn't mean anything. After all, it's just a bit of paper. And while the uses of a $100 bill are many, so can sex have many meanings. I guess what I'm saying is, don't make it inconsequential. Our lives have meaning and sex and the intimacy involved are a very deep part of our lives. Not to be entered lightly. Hope all this isn't to heavy or confusing. It's just that your question brought up a lot of stuff for me to think about. Later,
Anon.,
Well, Hi again, its me who sent that msg before.
Anon, that's really cool. The reasons you gave all concern other people's reactions if you did have sex, but what about your personal reaction? Do you think you would be heartbroken if the relationship you're in ends? Would you think less of yourself afterwards? If you decide (for ANY reason) not to have sex after the first time, will you be able to tell this to the guy?
I've never even kissed anyone - not in THAT way.
By KIM1015 on Saturday, August 22, 1998 - 04:26 pm:
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By Gilmoure on Sunday, August 23, 1998 - 08:43 pm:
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By Anonymous on Tuesday, October 6, 1998 - 11:38 am:
1. If my friends found out, they would ignore me.
2. If my parents found out they would kill me.
3. If my class found out I'd be called a slut.
4. Its not legal before you are 16 and the guy is 18 which we both aren't.
What the hell am I gonna do? Can someone help me out here and give me some advice?
By Gilmoure on Tuesday, October 6, 1998 - 11:16 pm:
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By Endora on Wednesday, October 7, 1998 - 10:59 am:
If you have any doubts or hesitations, take your time and wait. Another thing to consider is how you would feel if the relationship ended. I know, it's unpleasant & unromantic. Everyone likes to think that their first love will be forever, but not that many people wind up w/their first love forever. I think we can all do the math on that one.
It's vital to your emotional well being to consider this aspect. If you break up w/him, would you be sad about the breakup, but be glad you had your first time w/him or would you regret having had your first time w/him?
Everyone's different, but personally, I think 14's a bit young. Why not wait awhile? It's not that sex is bad or wrong, but that it has a lot of consequences etc. & people should make sure they're ready for it. Also, have you seen a doctor about birth control, etc.?
By Anonymous on Tuesday, October 20, 1998 - 10:09 am:
Thanks all for the advice, I have decided to take my time and not bother right now, or maybe when the moment is right. Bye for now.
By Anonymous on Friday, October 30, 1998 - 11:59 am:
Do you have plans for birth control and are you SURE he doesn't have an STD? You usually can't tell if someone has one by appearance.
And in the worst case scenario, if you got pregnant, would you be willing to put your life on hold to have a baby?
I'm not trying to be preachy but I considered all this myself. I'm 20 and my bf has asked about sex, but I thought of all these things before deciding 'no':
I can't quit college if I get pregnant and I'd refuse to have an abortion.
I know we are both virgins and I would like to stay that way until I (we?) get married.
I would be pissed at myself for breaking a promise I made to myself at age 10...waiting for marriage.
We've only been dating 7 months and I want to see if we are compatible enough to get along for another 1 1/2 yrs. of college before we get married and have sex. I figure if we can get along for that long, then he's the right one.
Not to mention I am so glad I didn't have sex with either of my ex-boyfriends. Both seemed like the one at the time, but now I see how little we had in common and I'm glad I didn't make that commitment. (I guess I do view sex as a commitment.)
By Celia Gardner on Monday, November 9, 1998 - 07:53 am:
I'm sixteen years old. Too old to be chaste? (I like the word "chaste") I thought (sometimes, in my darker moments) that it was too old. But I have read the messages in this section and it makes me happy to read about a variety of different sexual experiences and types.
There's nothing like other people's lives for making me feel better. Thankyou.