Some time ago, my friend went around school asking people this question: If you were at a party, and a good-looking guy/girl you didn't know asked you if you wanted to fool around, would you do it?
It's because the girls do it to themselves.
I'm not sure why there is a double standard about sexuality, but I know in my school some girls are called sluts just for wearing clothes some people consider "slutty". This makes me so pissed off!
That's true Anonymous, I've been called a slut just for being curvy. Hello, I can't do anythung about that!
Personally, I find that anyone who sleeps around alot can't have alot of self-respect, whether they're male or female. This may upset some people...First, let me say that I don't think sex is dirty or bad. In fact, I think that is a beautiful experience to be shared by two people who love each other. That's why I don't think you should sleep w/ any Tom, Dick, or Jane. It cheapens the act, to me. You really have to look inside yourself for the real reasons for sex with someone. For manipulation, security, acceptance, whatever-it's a bad idea. And if you're just horny---go spend some quality alone-time with yourself (if you know what I mean).
I think that girls are only sluts if they sleep with LOADS of guys just for the fun of it. With one guy lot of times, or with one fling with one guy just for fun is okay, but only one or two times, sex should be for love.
What about guys who sleep w/ LOADS of girls just for the fun of it?
Slut is a really degrading term and I think it's wrong to call someone that. I mean your passing a judgement on someone without knowing anything about them. Maybe the reason they sleep with alot of guys is because they like it. Because it feels good. Really it's noones business why. It's not even anyones business that they do it in the first place.
It just is a guy thinks i guess,its the way their mind works.Almost all guys want to have sex so when a guy actually does it all the other guys(who want to do it to)are so envious of him and think he is so COOl now.But like alot of girls don't want to have sex,and some of the girls that actually do are pressured by the guys and it is not that their choice in the first place.But really alot of girls are completely against it,so when they find another girl who had sex with a guy they are saying that they are not like us,so why don't we call her a slut.Alot of the times its a girl that calls another girl a slut(sometimes a guy but i haven't heard it too often)and the guys cool by the guys,the girls don't like the guy either but don't call him a slut,cause they are not one of their own meaning they are not one of the girls.
It just is a guy thinks i guess,its the way their mind works.Almost all guys want to have sex so when a guy actually does it all the other guys(who want to do it to)are so envious of him and think he is so COOl now.But like alot of girls don't want to have sex,and some of the girls that actually do are pressured by the guys and it is not that their choice in the first place.But really alot of girls are completely against it,so when they find another girl who had sex with a guy they are saying that they are not like us,so why don't we call her a slut.Alot of the times its a girl that calls another girl a slut(sometimes a guy but i haven't heard it too often)and the guys cool by the guys,the girls don't like the guy either but don't call him a slut,cause they are not one of their own meaning they are not one of the girls.
All of this is pretty much the double standard that we the society should get rid of. I don't think that this will stop unless we do something about it...but I am not sure what. I think that all girls must get into the attitude that girls can do anything guys can do...but better. There are a lot of girls I know that are "sluts" by the common standard, but I have noticed that most of these "sluts" never take action in anything...and they simply let the guys run over them. This means taking action when guys call you slut because you're "curvy" or because someone has said something about you. This also means for girls not to sit there and bat their eyelashes at a guy when they don't understand something about their schoolwork. I am in no way saying that anyone is doing any of this who are being called sluts...but this may lower your chances of being called a slut if you take action when you are tortured for your body, taking strong action in male dominated activities and trying to do things yourself in male dominated activities...rather than play dumb.
Hey Anonymous, I think your statment "I think that all girls must get into the attitude that girls can do anything guys can do...but better" is implying a double standard in itself. Get your thoughts straight.
Anonymous and anyone else out there offended by my posting...I am sorry in advance. I didn't mean to get anyone offended by my statements. Don't jump on my butt for it. Please. I just meant that girls need to stop acting helpless for guys. I think that we are not put on this green Earth just to make crying noises. And I am sorry again in advance for that statement as well. I'll stop posting to this room...
i don't know, at my school if a girl or a guy has a different romantic interest every day we call them a slut. i don't think we really think, "ew, slut," it's more like saying, "she wears glasses," or "he likes red meat." it's more, "marissa's a slut, good for her, i wish i could be half as slutty as her." we're ENLIGHTENED.
You americans have some problems with sluts, huh? Its kinda different here thank gawd. Guys and Girls mature later here and they don't get round to fooling around with the opposite sex, while northern europeans like me do. No one cares, lots of people know and are cool about it, its best when you don't brag about it or act like you're gods gift to the humane race all the time. If you are a "slut" then maybe you should change around people, its not wrong being a "slut", but its bad to act like it all the time. And if people should call you a slut just because you look good, well...fuck 'em, 'cos they are just really bored and need someone to pick on and they don't get as much as you do. I wont call it jealousy 'cos that'll start some fight talk. Anyhow, take it easy "so-called-sluts" And remember; learn from your parents mistake, use birth control.
Most of the guys said yes and most of the girls said no except for this one girl. While the guys who answered yes were just dismissed as being horny, the girl who answered yes was called a slut (she has a small reputation for this, but nothing big.) I thought this was really sexist thinking. How come if a guy answers yes, it's considered normal, but if a girl says yes, she's labeled a whore? Any thoughts?
By Star on Thursday, July 16, 1998 - 04:08 pm:
From the time we are born (Well, most of us.) we are conveyed the message that sex is dirty. It happens to most people, and it's really dumb... but guys are around other guys, like dads, and dads friends. They get the message that it's acceptable to mess around, and they have more pressure to do it. Girls sometimes keep the "bad" notion in thier head and it's really dumb.
Sex is good. NOT BAD. That's why I get so mad when people call other girls sluts. If that was me, and I knew that it was just to mess around, hell yeah, I'd do it. There is nothing wrong with physical pleasure.
If girls start realizing this, well then, we'd have alot less "sluts" in this world. And it would be easier to justify our actions. Not that we should have to justify our actions, but let's not deny the facts that we have to. If you want it, go for it. you only live this life once. Make it a good one.
*Star*
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