ORAL SEX


NrrdGrrl! Discussion Forum: Just Plain Talk: ORAL SEX
By Too Young on Wednesday, May 6, 1998 - 07:41 pm:

Can someone please help me? Is a person still considered a virgin if they have oral sex? This issue has been bothering me.......thanks.


By Keely on Wednesday, May 6, 1998 - 08:45 pm:

It's sort of a contreversal issue. i think technically (but am not positive) that until you have had sexual intercourse you are a virgin,... but a lot depends one what believes virginity to be....
Hope i have been of some help......


By Eliste on Wednesday, May 6, 1998 - 11:25 pm:

yes Keely. Technically speaking you are a virgin until you have intercourse. HOWEVER you and your partner may not have the same ideas about this. If he thinks that oral sex is sex and that that deflowers you so to speak, then you better be ready to understand that. Men, for some reason, dont like to think their woman have done anything like that with any other man which may account for differing views. Also some think of oral sex being more intimate than intercourse... whatever the reason a lot of people view it differently. Websters says you're a virgin until you have intercourse but you should find out what your partner's stance on the issue is...


By Shannon on Thursday, May 7, 1998 - 01:45 pm:

Just a personal opinion, but I think that virginity is almost a state of mind. No, I'm not saying that if you *want* to be a virgin, you are, I'm just saying that.... well, if someone is raped, I would think that they were still a virgin after that, because they didn't have a choice about it. And if you *feel* like oral sex is sex, than you're no longer a virgin after that. But, if you feel that oral sex is no big deal, you're still a virgin after you do it. Virginity is a really personal thing, and if I were you, I wouldn't let anyone else define it for me. :)


By Shampoo on Friday, May 8, 1998 - 02:49 am:

Yah, Shannon is right! I mean, what is *virginity* anywayz? Does it have any reflection on who you are as a person? It's one of those words that doesn't really have a purpose.


By Anonymous on Saturday, May 9, 1998 - 08:37 am:

one time i broke up with a guy because he didn't like to give oral sex.


By Anonymous on Thursday, May 14, 1998 - 09:59 am:

oral sex is sex, but penatration is the real thing. He has to enter you for you to lose your virginity.
Oral sex is great, give it a go!!!


By Cailey on Thursday, May 28, 1998 - 04:34 pm:

what the deal about oral sex any how? i mean most guys don't wash properly, and excuse me for saying, but i find that thought a bit of a turn off, and the phrase 'you don't know where it's been' gets a whole new meaning, when you do ...


By Trish on Saturday, May 30, 1998 - 07:57 pm:

You know, you are speaking truth there. For all you know, your boyfriend could have just taken a piss before you go out or go over to his hous or whatever. It is a little weird, and choking!! Gag!! At the same time though, it makes them so happy, and when your guy is happy, he usually wants to make you happy!! I think that oral sex is great, personnally, but I prefer it right after a shower. Then you know that he is clean, and don't have to worry. now here is a perplexing question, spit or swallow????


By Shampoo on Sunday, May 31, 1998 - 03:43 am:

Whoa.... I've never done it, but I've thought about it before.... never thought of that before, though.... hmm....


By Anonymous on Sunday, May 31, 1998 - 05:16 am:

have some kleenex close at hand just in case!

personally, it totally depends on my mood.

but i would never let anyone that i wasn't in a trusting monogamous relationship with shoot anything into my mouth. i recommend condoms for any kind of sexual activity. protect your bodies grrls. someone will respect you for it one day.

my partner and i have discussed where, how and how clean we like it. communication is imperative for a healthy successful sex life!

wow, i'll have to be anonymous here! : )


By Wondering on Sunday, May 31, 1998 - 02:57 pm:

How do you do it. Can I please have some tips on how to do it, and what are some moves that make a guy real horny.


By Wise One on Sunday, May 31, 1998 - 10:52 pm:

Hey grrls, if you are worried about your man not being clean, then you probably shoudn't be having oral sex with him. Or any kind of sex, for that matter.


By Anonymous on Tuesday, June 2, 1998 - 07:14 pm:

HOW TO MAKE A GUY HORNY: Rip off all of your clothes. Jump on him. Stick your hands down his pants. Really, anything!!

HOW TO HAVE ORAL SEX: It is an unwritten rule in this country to not discuss this issue, but I will break it. Two words, Oral Sex, obviously it has something to do with your mouth and his, um...genitalia. go here...www.riotgrrl.com to the archives. Go to Issue number 17...Venus D.Wylde wrote an article about it...that should help ya!!


By Shannon on Thursday, June 11, 1998 - 12:05 am:

The most important thing in oral sex, or really any kind of sex,is communication. My boyfriend never climaxed through oral sex, and he said that it was because in the back of his mind, he knew it was degrading to me, and he just couldn't come that way. Well, one day, we broke into my parents' room and were watching some of their porn flicks (not crazy about them, but trying to have an open mind, you know). Anyway, he asked me if I could try it the way the girl on the screen was doing it. I did, and big surprise, he liked it a lot more.. if you know what I mean. >:) Now, it upsets me that he did'nt just tell me in the first place that I wasn't doing it the way he wanted. So, if you're curious as to how well you're doing it, just ask. Sorry if I was too frank for anybody out there... but, hey...


By Nikki on Tuesday, June 23, 1998 - 02:38 am:

Virginity is one of those things, hey? Like religion? It's fuzzy!
But ORAL SEX TIPS:
#1 ***NO TEETH!!!***
#2 I know it sounds sick, but lick his balls. Just a quick lick with the tongue tip does the trick!
#3 Use your hands!
#4 Tease him aplenty! You can just strip him down, lie him on the bed, and lick his legs, chest, tummy, penis.
#5 If you're a spitter DO NOT under ANY circumstances spit in front of him or treat his semen like poison.
#6 If you don't want to do it DON'T! Remember, you have EVERY right to say "no!"

SHANNON: I have performed oral sex on my fiance, and he has NEVER come through it, not because he doesn't enjoy it but because he genuinely feels it IS degrading to actually come the whole hammer and tong in a girl's mouth. I'm actually glad he feels that way, as when I first gave oral, my ex, Mr Spermorama spurt about a pound into my mouth and nearly choked me!
My fiance "dribbles", which I don't mind, and he gives me oral until I orgasm, but when he feels the urge to come when he's in my mouth, he pulls out and lets himself calm down, or we begin penetration.

And finally, you know your man REALLY loves you when he refuses to have sex with you drunk, no matter how horny he is. Now is that respect or what?!

Love ya's!


By Joanna on Tuesday, June 23, 1998 - 11:35 am:


Ok, I know this might sound a bit thick, but when you have oral sex, can you use a condom? Also, is it safe to swallow his sperm?


By Shampoo on Wednesday, June 24, 1998 - 01:10 am:

Someone told me you hurt their feelings if you spit. But I find the idea of swallowing just very, very.... very very icky. Is it okay to just *spit*? and what do you mean by "not in front of them", where do I go to do it?


By Lane G on Friday, June 26, 1998 - 07:49 am:

Morally and ethically a lot of fuddy duddies and parents would say you're not a virgin after oral sex...I think they're wrong.


By Anonymous on Monday, June 29, 1998 - 11:08 pm:

Oh!!! I spat infront of an ex of mine! BIG NO-NO! It really does hurt their feelings! I was accused of not accepting him because I wouldn't swallow.
I have also swallowed. The way I see it, if you have a glass of orange juice nearby, it's easy. Just swallow, then drink.
Oral Horror story! I was giving head to my current boyfriend for the first time, and he thrust a bit too hard, causing me to throw up on him! I think that's worse that swallowing. Luckily he was cool about it, had a shower and acted like nothing was wrong.


By Lee on Wednesday, July 1, 1998 - 09:35 pm:

Anon--

Don't mean to judge or anything, but was your boyfriend concerned about you, did he make sure you were okay? Why were you "lucky" that he was cool about it, when you were the one throwing up? Maybe he was the one who should have been apologizing for thrusting hard enough to make you vomit.


By Anonymous on Thursday, July 2, 1998 - 08:14 pm:

Lee...yeah, he did apologise. Like, I didn't just ralph, then he had a shower or anything. I started to cry, out of embarrasment, but he cleaned me up first, checked I was ok, then had a shower, and then checked I was ok again. That was about two years ago! We laugh about it now and have a pet name for oral...chunkies!
Another oral horror...my period wasn't due for another week, and so my ex began oral on me, he came up and his chin was totally smeared with blood! I had an early period! Even though it was disgusting, I just cracked up laughing! Even now when I saw him at my friend's daughter's christening he wiped his chin as a joke!
You just have to laugh these things off!


By Anonymous on Sunday, August 2, 1998 - 05:25 pm:

details of the steps to doing oral? please reply


By Anonymous on Wednesday, August 5, 1998 - 01:15 am:

Guys really like it if you lick. You can lick the tip, the sides, all of it. They like it when you suck, bob your head and give them a hand job at the same time. My mouth isn't long enough to fit his penis in it, so I have to use my hand too. Personally, I don't swallow. He tells me when he's about to finish and I jack him off until he's done. I don't like it so he does it out of respect.


By Anonymous on Saturday, October 3, 1998 - 05:01 pm:

I doubt I'll need to know this for a long time, but what does it actually taste like when he comes in your mouth? Swallowing anyone's bodily fluids, or even just having them in your mouth, grosses me out totally.


By Barbie girl gone bad on Thursday, October 8, 1998 - 08:14 pm:

One of my friends says she absolutely hates giving oral, but I kinda like ti. I think it's a whole power thing for me. I have this little theory about personality vs. sexual personality. In groups of people, I'm not very dominant or assertive most times, but I love to pin my boyfriend down and tease him. This friend of mine is very dominant in groups and always very loud, but with guys she's submissive and loves to be dominated. Anyone see a connection there?


By Want to know on Sunday, October 18, 1998 - 07:49 pm:

How does a guy give a girl oral sex???


By Mr X on Monday, October 19, 1998 - 12:49 pm:

Well, there's no better substitute for learning how than to do it a lot, but there are a few general ideas you might want to think about:

_Enthusiasm_ The more you enjoy it and want to do it, the better you'll be at it, and the more the girl will like it. There's no turn-off like when you know the other person really doesn't want to do what they're doing...and they will know as well...

_Relax_ Don't get worried about whether you're doing it right, it's any good, etc. just stay relaxed, the more nervous/worried/etc you are the more nervous/worried/etc the girl will become and the less enjoyable it'll be (for both of you).

_Have fun_ If you're not having fun, you're doing it wrong!

With those caveats in mind, you'll want to get your head down between her legs and use that tongue of yours to bring her to climax. The place to aim for is her clitoris as it's _very_ sensitive and will arouse her really well. But you don't want to jump straight at it as it may be uncomfortable if its stimulated before she's aroused (ie wet). A good idea is to slowly use the tip of your tongue on her entrance, gently using your tongue to open her up (and this will moisten her up as well). Once she's wet, you can turn your attentions to her clitoris. At first, you may have trouble finding it, especially if this is your first time with the girl in question, but a good guide is to work your tongue up her body in a line, her clit will be just above her hole. If you run your tongue up in a line, you should feel a little bump and that's the spot you want. Be gentle with it, and just use the tip of your tongue to gently flick around it and over it. Listen to how the girl's reacting, it'll give you a good indication of what she likes and what's the most pleasurable for her so continue doing that. Some girls like you to flick your tongue around the sides, others like you to run it over it, listen to her and you'll soon find what's best.

It's important not to get too carried away and stick licking like a maniac in the early stages, the clitoris is very sensitive and doing this can result in actually turning the girl off, rather than on. Also, take it _slowly_ and build things up, you'll be able to tell by her reaction when to speed up. As she becomes more aroused, you can start to use your tongue a little harder, what was far too much for her at the start may now be not nearly enough. Listen to how she reacts to your harder licks and adjust accordingly. Just remember to take it slowly, it's better to use a soft lick that builds to hard one rather than an unexpected hard one that isn't nice.

As she becomes more and more aroused, you can use your tongue and mouth to do different things, like very gently taking her clit in your mouth, or nibbling it gently, or using your tongue on her hole or fingering her as you lick her out. Sooner or later, she'll begin to come, and when she does, _don't stop_, continue licking her through her orgasm. You'll probably find that when she comes she'll want harder licks than at any other time, but don't go overboard, especially if you don't know how sensitive she is or how she likes it best. The more you do it with each other, the more you get to know what the other person likes best.

The easiest thing to do is not to try too many things at once and go for the basics - just lick that clit. After you're more experienced with it you can try other things. Always listen to the girl, she'll give you the best indication of what she wants, and if her hands start to push your head in a certain direction or she wriggles about to get herself in a better position for your tongue then go with what she's after.

At first, you'll probably have difficulty finding her clit so use the guide of it being in a line above her hole. When you run your tongue over it, you'll feel a small hard bump and that's the place. If you're really having difficulty, listen to her and use that to guide you to it, and if you really can't find it, ask her to give you a hand ('up a bit, down a bit, up a...oh yeah!'). Take your time and do it _slowly_ building up to her climax, she'll _really_ appreciate good oral sex. The more time you take, the more you learn how she likes it and the better you get. As you get more experienced, you can move onto building her up to her climax, then stopping just short of it, letting her down, then building her up again, etc. until she will practically force you into making her come or doing the alphabet with your tongue on her clit, etc. Just remember to take things slowly until you're more experienced and keep things simple, but above all, have fun and enjoy it!


By Keely on Saturday, October 24, 1998 - 10:54 pm:

I have heard that having a tongue ring improves oral sex....
Anyone else heard that??


By Anonymous on Monday, October 26, 1998 - 03:39 pm:

i've only ever given oral sex twice the first time was fine and my boyfriend came easily but the second time he couldn't and finished my job with his hand . I didn't say anything to him but I felt realy shit arfter that and was a bit ashamed . I just wondered if any one else had had a similar expeariance?


By Keely on Monday, October 26, 1998 - 03:53 pm:

It happens. After a while your mouth just gets tired.... Don't worry about it....
:)
Keely


By THE BLOW SISTERS on Friday, October 30, 1998 - 05:13 am:

YOU GUYS DONT HAVE A CLUE DO YOU ?

IF YOU REALLY WANT TO KNOW HOW TO GIVE A BLOW.....
1) OPEN SESAME
2)OPEN MOUTH
3)PUT IT IN AND MOVE THAT TONGUE
4) SUCK SO HARD IT FORCES HIM TO SHOOT
5) GENTLY BITE AND PULL, OUT OF MOUTH. THIS CAUSES SHOCK IN THE DICK
6)DRINK................ERM WATER NOT HIS PISS
7) THEN GIVE HIM A HAND JOB

HOW DO WE KNOW HOW TO DO IT SO WELL? CAUSE ITS OUR JOB THATS WHY...

ENJOY!


Add a Message


Enter Username and Password

This is a public posting area. If you have a user account or a moderator account, enter your username and password into the provided text boxes. If you do not have an account, enter your full name into the "Username" blank and leave the "Password" blank empty.

    Username:
    Password:
    Post message as "Anonymous"