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NrrdGrrl! Discussion Forum: Lives and Confessions: all girls need a guys opinion
By KIM1015 on Friday, August 14, 1998 - 07:57 pm:

the subject for this conversation is for all us girls that always need a guys opinion!!! all girls at somepoint in there live is always gonna need a guy's opinion, Comon face it!!!!Girls all u have to do is post a message/question that you want a guys opion and HOPEFULLY guys that come to this page will answer them. guys this is where you come in anyone who posts a question or message or whatever pretaining to relationship,ect.,ect.,ect.
if you can give an answer that would help us out write away if not oh well well i thought this was a good idea so let's see if it works!!!:)

-thanks
KIM


By KIM1015 on Sunday, August 16, 1998 - 03:11 pm:

comon everybody!!! respond to this site , OK i'll start the conversation::

guys would you ever go out w/ your best friends ex girlfriend if he dumped her?


please respond!!!


By Oirio on Monday, August 17, 1998 - 01:59 pm:

Hello, i may not be male but if my best pal dumped her lad after a while i d get it toghether if i knew that i had a chance coz a true pal would never stand in your way of happiness although she probably would feel ill seeing us toghether.No, i dont speak from experiance,just my view.how long would you leave it before u pounced on him??Days??
reply, im sure that kim would be glad 2 c her site take off!!


By Ranma on Monday, August 17, 1998 - 11:01 pm:

Ok, loooks like I'll be the first guy to post here, so, if my best friend dumped a girl, and I liked her, yes i would ask her out. The time thing is where it gets complicated, but given that she wasn't too messed up about the breakup I would give it a week or two.


By Jabberwocky on Tuesday, August 18, 1998 - 06:19 pm:

Hey Ranma. Let me guess, you're an anime fan? Personally, my fav from ranma 1/2 was mousse. He was way cool in the second movie. I prefer the manga, tho


By Shampoo on Wednesday, August 19, 1998 - 02:30 am:

hmm... if i broke up with a guy i would have some problems with my best friend going out with him a week or two later. it would need to be longer, cuz i would still have feelings for him after a week or two. i still have feelings for guys i've liked like, 2 months ago and while i wouldn't be devastated if my friend went out with him, it would still kinda hurt a little but i wouldn't stand in her way. 1-2 weeks is way too short, though.


By KIM1015 on Wednesday, August 19, 1998 - 08:05 pm:

SHAMPOO: but shampoo i'm talkin' about if YOU dumped him and didn't like him anymore, would u have a problem w/ your best friend goin' out w/ him????


EVERYONE: don't be afraid to post your own problems and as you can see we already have guys on this page:)!!!!!!!

thanks
KIM :)


By Ranma on Sunday, August 23, 1998 - 04:29 am:

Yeah Jabberwocky, I am. I have always liked ranma, although he does some really dumb things, and doesn't know when to stop teasing akane and kiss her, I still do like him. I am waiting for the rest of the comics to be translated to english since I yet can't read japanese, and in the mean time trying not to find out how it ends, the person who spoils it for me will meet a quick demise... but anyway, shampoo: it's a bit different for guys, usually when a guy dumps a girl he is completely over her, or almost, the 1-2 weeks, is kind of a grace, maybe it is a bit quick, but that is when I was talking that i would start, then probably ask her out in another week or two when I knew that she was over the guy.


By Gilmoure on Sunday, August 23, 1998 - 08:14 pm:

I can't speak for others, but as for myself, if I break up with a girl, I have a hard time being around her for awhile. I feel really bad about it. It's hard to tell someone that you don't want to date them. If my friend started dating her, then it would be really difficult. Here's where the weird guy-jealosy thing kicks in. Even though I've broken up her, seeing someone else dating her, especially my friend can kinda' hurt. I know it's not rational and is prbably somekind of power/control thing but there it is. That doesn't mean that I act on such feelings. People as a whole have a lot of nasty feelings. It's how we deal with them that counts. Does any of this make sense? Later,

G


By Gilmoure on Sunday, August 23, 1998 - 08:17 pm:

Here's another question. Does it bother anyone that guys are one nrrdgrrl? I've only been here of a day and it's some of the coolest message boards I've seen. Women definately have a different take on things and it cool get it.


By Shampoo on Monday, August 24, 1998 - 02:31 am:

i've got no problem with it. (guys coming to nrrdgrrl). hey, is there a male version of nrrdgrrl out there?


By Gilmoure on Monday, August 24, 1998 - 08:29 am:

Would be interesting to find out. Anyone know of some kind of geekguy hangout/message board?


By KIM1015 on Monday, August 24, 1998 - 04:58 pm:

thanx Gilmore i really apreciate your comment
c i'm gonin' throught that now my boyfriend resently broke up with me for no apparent reason and now i have feelings for his best friend over the summer i kinda forgot about him but thurs school starts and i really like him but i on't think anything will happen because i went out with his best friend.

keep posting things guys and girls
other problems can be solved

KIM


By Soph on Tuesday, August 25, 1998 - 05:02 pm:

Right...I've had this (kind of) relationship with this boy over the holidays (we've been to the cinema and stuff), but nothing's actually happened between us. The thing is, I've fancied him since I've known him, and I don't know if he fancies me back, coz he's a quite shy and standoffish person.

Any lads out there like to share how they hint to grrls that they like them?

Thanx. Luv Soph xxx


By Ranma on Thursday, August 27, 1998 - 10:01 pm:

ok, well, all guys are a bit different, but I am kind of shy around grrls too, so here are a few things that you might want to look out for: phisical contact, even if it is just standing a little bit extra close, bumping hips, wiping hair off your face, touching or holding hands, stuff like that. And also, watch how he acts around you, see if he goes out of his way to talk to you, to be around you, and see if he changes his manner when he in around you, if he starts acting more caring, swears less, but pay close atention. ok, that pretty well covers it, if you have a specific question, go on and post it, good to know that I can help another shy guy out.


By Soph on Sunday, August 30, 1998 - 12:34 pm:

Thanx Ranma! When I last saw him, I noticed loads of these things, especially the hair thing. Maybe I will ask him out.

Please keep your ideas coming. It's hard for a grrl to know these things if there isn't a guy like you around to help them.

Soph xxx


By Gilmoure on Sunday, August 30, 1998 - 05:44 pm:

Hey Soph,

Don't be afraid to ask him. While I have no trouble answering a question like "Do you like me?", I'll take forever to go and tell a girl that I do. Just part of being shy I guess. Also, just grab his hand if your in a movie or something (if there are other guys around, especially if he know them, he might get really embaressed) and see how he reacts.

G


By Gilmoure on Sunday, August 30, 1998 - 09:15 pm:

Here's my email for whoever cares:

gilmoure@blackstar.eckerd.edu


G


By Soph on Tuesday, September 1, 1998 - 04:17 pm:

Right. It's Sophie (Problemgrrl) again. Please try to explain this for me and tell me what I should do.

Ever since a while ago, this boy (the one I mentioned before), has been acting really cold on me. He had the flu, so I rang him up to see how he was, thinking he'd appreciate it. I was sure he would coz I phoned up his friend as well [my friend], and he told me he would appreciate being rung up. Anyway, I rang him, only to have it thrown back in my face - he was only saying one word answers and I knew he just wanted me to fuck off. So I said to him that I knew he didn't want me to talk to him and so I'd just go (and I did).

Ever since this, I haven't been rung by him (Which is very wierd coz he rang me nearly everyday while he was in Spain for a week), and I don't wanna ring him up again just incase he throws it back in my face again.

The relationships only been going on over the Summer holidays (We hardly talked in school), so do you think he doesn't want his friends to know about me, and so just backing off so that no-one expects anything, before school starts?

Anyway, do you think you can read this boy's mind and tell me what he's thinking, or do the next best thing and tell me what you think.

Please help soon - School starts in two days and I need to know what to expect (although I've got a dreadful feeling that he's gonna completely ignore me)

Luv Soph xxx

P.S. Don't worry, I can face the truth.


By Gilmoure on Tuesday, September 1, 1998 - 04:56 pm:

From a guy's perspective, it's hard to say. For myself, there are times when I feel bad about people going out of their way for me. Being sick, he may have been a bit rude and now regrets it. It's just really hard to come out and apologize. Probably the best thing is to just ring him and see what's up. Yeah, he may break up with you, but at least you'll know what's up. On the other hand, he may appriciate the chance to get back in your graces. He may think that you must hate him for the way he's acted. It's hard to say.Hope this helps,

G


By Gilmoure on Tuesday, September 1, 1998 - 04:57 pm:

From a guy's perspective, it's hard to say. For myself, there are times when I feel bad about people going out of their way for me. Being sick, he may have been a bit rude and now regrets it. It's just really hard to come out and apologize. Probably the best thing is to just ring him and see what's up. Yeah, he may break up with you, but at least you'll know what's up. On the other hand, he may appriciate the chance to get back in your graces. He may think that you must hate him for the way he's acted. It's hard to say.Hope this helps,

G


By Soph on Wednesday, September 2, 1998 - 06:50 am:

Thanx, Gilmoure. I dunno if your right or not, but you've given me some great alternatives to what I was thinking - he hates me and doesn't want to see me again.

Any other opinions? This is turning out to be a great notice board for me.

Luv Soph xxx


By KIM1015 on Friday, September 4, 1998 - 06:46 pm:

well I'm back(the creator of this board) i'm glad people are using it and actualy getting help from it. WELL KEEP POSTING PROBLEMS!!!!!

luv ya all

-KIM


By Ranma on Monday, September 7, 1998 - 12:30 am:

hey soph, sorry it took so long for me to get backto you, but first thing you should probably do is what gil said, give him a call, don't try to push anything at him, just make it casual, and see where he takes it, just make sure that you don't sound mad or anything at him, and you'll get your answer if you listen closely.


By Anonymous on Sunday, September 20, 1998 - 02:27 am:

*sigh*
I wish I had a grrl secretly like me..


By Anonymous on Sunday, September 20, 1998 - 02:28 am:

*sigh*
I wish I had a grrl secretly like me..


By Sunshine on Monday, September 21, 1998 - 06:39 pm:

Hey i have a question What do u guys look for in a girl???Cause all of us girls always try to ask the guys but they will never tell us,they almost seemed embarssed.Please tell me.Thanks.
:)Sunshine:)
Another question:What do u guys talk about when they talk about girls?????


By Anonymous on Monday, September 21, 1998 - 11:06 pm:

I'll tell you what most guys look for. All most guys want is a girl who is hot. Different guys like different things in particular, but a girl who looks good is basically what guys want. Our hormones tell us to do that. If the girl is hot and is slightly dumber than another smarter girl, most guys will go to the hot one because they are bastards. However, there are some guys (very few) who look personality and intelligence. I would take those anyday. Looks don't matter to me at all. When guys talk about girls all they talk about is how hot she is and how easy she is. Its true. There will be guys coming on here saying different things, but they are lying. Most men are bastards because it is in their genes to go and try to mate with every girl possible for survival of the species. Its not really our fault, but people don't have to listen to their genetic code. I certainly don't. Just try to find a guy who won't judge you by your looks and when you do, you have found the right guy. Its pretty hard, but you will be happier in the end.

Vijay
vijay.a.kher@vanderbilt.edu


By Gilmoure on Tuesday, September 22, 1998 - 10:57 am:

I can't really speak for anyone other than myself, but here goes. Being a bit of a loner, you know, the geeky kid who read books all the time and got beat up by the football team, I tend to be attracted to women who seem to be taking their own path. If I see a girl reading by herself, that'll catch my eye. Also, if she looks like herself and not like some magazine picture is cool.

As I get to know someone, it depends on who they are inside. Is she intellegent? Can she carry on a good conversation and know a bit about the world yet still be silly (I have a weird senxe of humor). Is she creative? I have all sorts of projects going on and love to learn and collaberate with folks on new skills and techniques in things. Does she form her own opionions about things (even if they are different from my own).

Finally, is she nice? I don't have any hard or fast definitions for what nice is, I just seem to know. I've dated one girl twice and both times, I ended up breaking up with her because she has a mean streak in her. It comes out when she's driving or she feels she's been slighted at a resturant or something. I try to look at what the other person's going through. Maybe they're late for work, or the waiter's had a bad day. Wanting 'vengance' for every little thing is not cool. Part of the niceness comes up in the smile. Some people have genuine smiles and others use theirs as a mask.

Hope this helps,

G


By Sunshine on Tuesday, September 22, 1998 - 05:08 pm:

Yea,i think what your sayin Vijay makes sense.Cause one of my friends is like wanted by all these guys but i couldn't find why...she isn't smart and has even been called a ditz,there really isn't anything special about her that makes her different from anyone else,but she has been called like easy.She flirts with all these guys and there is a rumor going around school how she had sex with a guy(but she didn't),so alot more recently guys have been wantin her.This makes so much more sense.Yea,i know not all guys are jerks,know some people that perfer personality over looks.Mostyt guys aren't in it for the personality,but i guess they can't help it.Thanks.
:)Sunshine:)
HEY IF ANYONE HAS ANYONE HAS ANYMORE THOUGHTS ABOUT WHAT GUYS WANT&THINK I'D LOVE TO HEAR IT.THANKS!!!!!!!


By Sunshine on Saturday, September 26, 1998 - 06:55 pm:

Hey any guy can answer this ,Vijay was saying that
guys would chose the prettier one who is dumber over the less prettier one but smarter.I believe that.But how about personality would a guy pick
a prettier girl who is a bitch over another girl who isn't as pretty but has a great personality?
:)Sunshine:)


By Kati on Tuesday, October 20, 1998 - 03:09 pm:

All Girls Do NOT need a guy's opinion, thankyaverymuch...


By Katie on Tuesday, October 20, 1998 - 03:14 pm:

All girls do NOT need a guy's opinion, thankyaverymuch...


By Anonymous on Tuesday, October 20, 1998 - 04:48 pm:

That was a sexist remark Katie. Please stop.


By Titania1 on Sunday, October 25, 1998 - 05:30 pm:

Hmmm, well i like this board, i, as a girl, have always had guys as best friends. Ok my question, the majority of guys that i know want females that are less ambitious and less intelligent than they are...why? to me it doesn't make sense and it just pisses me off when i think about it, i don't know why...it just does.


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