Shy Girls


NrrdGrrl! Discussion Forum: Q & A & Q & A: Shy Girls
By Cat on Thursday, September 17, 1998 - 08:39 pm:

I am really shy and quiet around boys and when I do speak, it comes out really stupid, any tips to the more outgoing part of the humane race can give?


By Anonymous on Friday, September 18, 1998 - 04:42 am:

yeah, so what if it comes out stupid?

Vijay
vkher@msms.doe.k12.ms.us


By Gilmoure on Friday, September 18, 1998 - 07:59 pm:

I'm also shy. It was hard, but over time I've gotten easier at such things. I'm even going to be in a play. Never would of thought it even 2 years ago. I think part of it is worring what people are going to think when you speak. Most people aren't that critical. Hope this helps,

G


By Shy but in love on Saturday, September 19, 1998 - 12:41 am:

do guys really hate it when a girl sends her freinds to ask them out??? Cuz everytime i get ready to ask this one guy out, i plan what i'm gonna say and everything, and then, when i go up to him, all i end up saying is hi and talking to him about normal stuff. I really wanna ask him out, but i'm finding it impossible!!!! please help, like gimme some ideas of what to do, say, etc. thanx! :)( a guys response would really help)


By Suki on Saturday, September 19, 1998 - 11:20 am:

Cat, I've found that the key is to keep it shyness on the inside. Try not to let people know, because it gives them an advantage over you. Even if inside you're thinking "Oh GOD, I'm such a twonk", outside you can still project super confidence. That'll make people think you can't be shamed and don't care what you say; that will give you confidence and respect in itself. I know it's a lot easier said than done, but i always say better in than out where shyness is concerned, cos then no one can use it negatively. Also,I don't think about my actions if i'm doing something brave - the longer you think, the more bad things you see. To quote a multi-national mega conglomerate sports label (who didn't get where they are today by being quiet!), just do it. good luck, grrl.


By Endora on Sunday, September 20, 1998 - 06:51 pm:

Cat,

Get involved in something you really like, music, writing, etc. You'll be w/other people who share your interests & the conversation always flows more easily when everyone has a common interest.

Also, certain activities allow you to work on overcoming your shyness. I wrote for my high-school & college newspapers. Initially, I like writing the stories, but hated interviewing people. I'd get nervous about talking to people I didn't know. I forced myself to keep doing it because I enjoyed the writing so much. Eventually, I got used to it & found it helped w/social situations. When I got nervous, I'd go into interview mode.

What do you enjoy doing in your free time? Any subjects or sports that you especially like? Maybe one of those interests could help you come out of your shell a bit.


By Marianne on Sunday, September 20, 1998 - 11:56 pm:

hi everyone...this message board might help me hopefully...i'm really nuts over this boy named matt that's a sophomore...he's so cute and my older brother's pretty good friends with him cause they have a few classes together...he says he's really nice and funny....problem is, every time i say something in front of him, i'm really freaked and it comes out sounding like i'm a complete idiot...any advice? thanks


By Anonymous on Monday, September 21, 1998 - 11:15 pm:

Don't worry about being a idiot. If you don't tell him how you feel about him, you'll just loose him.

Vijay
vijay.a.kher@vanderbilt.edu


By Anonymous on Friday, September 25, 1998 - 11:27 pm:

I think i'm pretty lucky, i might like a boy at first but after a while it doesn't matter.I don't feel uncomfortable around regular boys, because I've always played with my brother's friends. Who were younger than my brother, so around my age. I sorta like some of my brother's interests too like Magic th Gathering and so on. I've been around boys so much that they don't bother me.


By Anonymous on Friday, October 2, 1998 - 08:48 pm:

hi,
Im into this guy i really like,but he is 15.Iv written him
2 letters because Im to shy to approach him.help me!


By IWasDorothy on Wednesday, October 28, 1998 - 01:44 am:

well, i used to be painfully shy, but i became involved in performing arts. i then realized that even if i screw up when i talk in front of groups, even the best person i know at making speeches is still nervous, they just manage to hide it. i tried this at an audition and landed the starring role. i've never been shy after that. i ran for student body president last month. i lost, but the point is i would never have had enough courage to do that if i hadn't really pushed myself.


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