Family sucks


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By Lies on Sunday, November 8, 1998 - 11:12 am:

hi everbody. I want this room to be a room where people can moan about their families .Personally mine sucks!About 2 years ago my parents were killed in a car crash in china. Now I live with my two big brothers who are in charge of me, and it is absolute bloody hell! I get on ok with my second oldest brother cause he's really cool, but my oldest brother just yells at me and orders me around. i thinkI probably don't likr my oldest brother because he is responsible for me and I have to do what he says, but I just can't get used to the idea even though it has been almost 2 years ago. Anyway obviously they're my brothers and I love them both but they drive me nuts.whatsmore my brothers girl friends are such bitches and my oldest brother might ask her to move in and I hate her so I think I might die. However my brother seems to really love her and obviiuosly I want him to be happy but can't he choose someone else. she once told me that once she was marryied to him I would be put into a home. And considering the way that he feels about me I believe her. My second oldest brothers girlfriend is really decent and I always go to her when i NEED A shoulder to cry on. My best friend is really cool to me and I am always at her house and her family is like a second family to me. anyway if anyone has any advice to me I would be very grtateful . oh yeah and last month I got caught shoplifting and my brothers have grounded me 4 ever


By Anonymous on Sunday, November 8, 1998 - 07:45 pm:

I think my parents are overly uptight and don't let me do anything, but its nothing compared to your complication. Well, have a nice life.


By Endora on Sunday, November 8, 1998 - 08:15 pm:

Have you talked about the situation w/your friend's family or your second eldest brother & his girlfriend? It's a tough situation, but it sounds like there are some serious problems w/your eldest brother's girlfriend. Even if she was joking around about putting you away, that's a pretty awful thing to say to someone who's adjusting to the death of her parents and a new home situation. I hope things work out for you. Presumably, she's an adult? In that case she should know better.


By Tiffany on Monday, November 9, 1998 - 12:15 pm:

U know what u should do? U should tape ur brothers g/f in action and then show it to him! Personally my parenys are like anons totally uptight and they really annoy me all the time. But I think that ur brother loves you and just wants the best for u


By Lies on Monday, November 9, 1998 - 12:19 pm:

Thanks to everybody. I am not just adjusting to a home situation its been over 2 years. The problems with me as I can't accept that my brother gets to tell me what to do! As 4 his g/f yesterday at about11.00 they hah a huge fight so hopefully I won't see her anymore


By Anonymous on Monday, November 9, 1998 - 01:41 pm:

well beat this Lies! My mom and dad are divorced and my mom has turned in to an alcholic while my dad is dating my biology teacher which is half his age! Whats more is that my brother who I am very close to has gone to collage. so u see Lies everybody has problems


By Atarigrrl on Monday, November 9, 1998 - 08:57 pm:

I'll be praying that your situation gets better. Don't give up hope, it isn't easy but you should talk to your oldest brother. Tell him you want him to be happy with his girlfriend, but mention her comment about putting you in a home. Explain whether you think she still means it or not, but make it clear to your brother that it bothers you. You might want to mention it if you wish his girlfriend and you could understand each other the way your other brother's girlfriend and you can.
Your brother (however old he is) has a huge responsibility and a lot of stress, so he might be hoping he can share responsibilities with her if she moves in.
If you think chores at home aren't fair and you have too much work, you should also mention that to him now and ask for gradual reassigning of chores so it's more fair. If you don't think he's allowing you to do certain things, wait a while until the shoplifting incident clears and then ask him for gradual privileges.

Good luck, but definitely mention to him that you're worried about what his girlfriend moving in would mean to you!


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