I need to know if i am the only one.I have a dead mum , thats not what this is about...i literally hate my father and feel i can't trust any one in this house.The only person i trusted left..and rightly so this is a prime example of a dis-functional family.I need to know does anyone else hate their families...i mean i do love them i dont know why but there is no connection between us.I'm 15 and classed as the moody only female of the house.No one understands that i really do think i have a classic case of depression.I'm grounded now for saying how i felt about some one and i cant even have a friend over.I do nothing but cry all day and think of various places i can go and stay.Don't tell me to talk to them as thats what got me into this mess.I really want to leave here and school,get a job and an apartment and do what i want but i wont get a flat.I'm underage for a flat and a job.I feel so trapped.I've apolagised yet i am still grounded.Its my pals birthday on saturday and even though he promised i could go now i cant and shes really upset.I cant really do anything coz i insulted his girlfriend...i told him i did'nt like her and that i felt threatened by her..he told me it was none of my business.Fair enough i did upset him, but i apolagised i also promised to work real hard for the next month if he'd let me go to the party.He aid no.I really hate him..its not just a phase...i really do hate him , i would not even call him a father.PLEASE i need a mature opinion about this, i firmly believe i will either go crazy or start thinking about suicide
Its pretty normal to not like your parents sometimes,everyone feels like that way at one time.Okay i know i don't always like what my parents do,and sometimes they are so unfair when they won't let me do things without a good explanation.Tell your dad about how u feel.No don't argue about what he will and won't let u do.Tell him how u want a better relationship with him,that includes communication.Just when u do this don't start talking about how he wouldn't let u do things,cause that will probbaly just start a fight.Well,he probbaly is hurt by u insulting his girlfriends,maybe he really liked her.Don't think of ending your life just because of your father.There is some much worth living for,and things will get better.If u be really nice to your father,don't make fun of girlfriends or anything about him,and maybe like help him around the house,i'm sure things will get better with u and your father.Tell me how it turns out.
Pinch,
Well girls thanx for replying but ourschool has no councillors and the whole get everyone toghether thing wont work,,i treid it.Meg i would tell my da i wanted better communic. except i really dont care if i never speak to him.I asked him if there was any thing i could do to go to the party tomorrow..anything at all and he said no way.
Well girls thanx for replying but ourschool has no councillors and the whole get everyone toghether thing wont work,,i treid it.Meg i would tell my da i wanted better communic. except i really dont care if i never speak to him.I asked him if there was any thing i could do to go to the party tomorrow..anything at all and he said no way.
How about any local sources? Maybe a crisis line in the phone book could refer you to one? Even if you go alone, it'll help you deal better w/the situation at home, which might help you get through the next few years.
Pinchy,
That song is sooo related.I will perserviere coz i relly have no choice but the song i was listening to was "R.Kelly andSparkel" it was called "Be Careful".I had an accident and someone lost it so now i have nothing.I want to thank you so much for the support but it seems i am tha only 1 who hates their family.It s back to solitude 4 me.....
help ,me please
Pinch
By MeG on Thursday, October 29, 1998 - 09:45 pm:
*MeG*
By Endora on Thursday, October 29, 1998 - 10:36 pm:
Try & hang in there until you're old enough to be on your own. I know it seems like forever, but it'll go by before you know it. To help make things bearable in the meantime, you might want to talk to a counselor who can advise you on how to best cope w/your father & the rest of the situation. Any chance of getting everyone together (including your dad's girlfriend) for family counseling to work things out? Sometimes having someone who's not directly involved in a situation can calm people down.
I've been lucky enough to have great step-parents, but I know a lot of people who have nightmare situations. For some reason, it seems to be worse w/the father/step-mom (or girlfriend)/daughter thing. One of my friends was told to leave home in the middle of the night because she didn't get along w/her step-mom. She wasn't shouting at or threatening her step-mom. Luckily, her boyfriend's parents took her in for the night.
I don't know that much about your situation, so it's hard to say what to do. That's why I think a counselor (even if you go by yourself) might be a good idea. Does your school have any counselors? I hope things work out well for you.
By Anonymous on Friday, October 30, 1998 - 03:46 pm:
look i really gotta go..thanx
pinchy
By Anonymous on Friday, October 30, 1998 - 03:47 pm:
look i really gotta go..thanx
pinchy
By Endora on Friday, October 30, 1998 - 09:17 pm:
By Endora on Saturday, October 31, 1998 - 04:52 pm:
I don't know how you feel about music, but it can definitely help people hang in there. Are you familiar the Madonna song Oh Father? Be cautious about playing it w/out earphones, as it might aggravate the situation further, but I think the lyrics might help. I found them on a web page & am putting them at the end of this message for you.
The main reason I'm recommending this song is that the narrator (looking back as an adult) of the song is talking about how:
"You can't hurt me now
I got away from you, I never thought I would
You can't make me cry, you once had the power
I never felt so good about myself"
I know it's really hard now, but things will get better. Hang in there. From what I remember at the time of the song's release, it was semi-autobiographical.
Oh Father
written by Madonna and Patrick Leonard
Track 8, Time: 4:57
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It's funny that way, you can get used
To the tears and the pain
What a child will believe
You never loved me
Chorus:
You can't hurt me now
I got away from you, I never thought I would
You can't make me cry, you once had the power
I never felt so good about myself
Seems like yesterday
I lay down next to your boots and I prayed
For your anger to end
Oh Father I have sinned
(chorus)
Oh Father you never wanted to live that way
You never wanted to hurt me
Why am I running away
(repeat)
Maybe someday
When I look back I'll be able to say
You didn't mean to be cruel
Somebody hurt you too
(chorus)
By Pinchy on Sunday, November 1, 1998 - 10:42 am: